Wedding Wednesday!

I can't remember exactly where I stumbled upon these beauties but there are some that are from Max + Margeaux's wedding (remember THIS?) and then there is another wedding, too! (If you have links, I'll greatly appreciate them and add them to the post!). Basically today we're looking at some beautifully styled big days!





Wowweee! Next week we're going to do something a little different around here and I'm going to showcase the wedding of my personal friend from O'more, Amanda! She was married last month and it was a beautiful mix of color, stark white, diy and bride-on-a-budget so we'll have photos and her personal tips and tricks! I know y'all will love it!

Now the Weekly Wedding Question! Getting married "young" seems to be quite the trend the past few years, and of course everyone has their opinion about it! Some conservatives claim that the young'ns don't know what true love really is, or that it's destined to fail, or they're rushing into things... whatever the excuse may be! What is your opinion on marrying young? 


My thoughts: I personally think there is a drastic difference in being young and being immature/naive. Those two are not the same. I think you can be one without being the other (you could be 50 and still be immature!) I don't think age is a direct reflection on the quality of the relationship. Whether you've been together since 6th grade or 6 months ago, I think there is a mature way to handle any and everything. Not going to lie, I have wedding fever. But I always have wedding fever. Maybe even moreso now that I know I'm with someone that I would love to spend the rest of my life with and I can invision Mr. Flynn at the end of that aisle. Heck, if it weren't for the whole financial angle, I'd say let's get married tomorrow! (Well, I really want to plan so, and August isn't my ideal marriage month.... maybe next year? :P haha) I don't think we need any more divorces, that's for sure (so anyone saying same-sex marriages will ruin the institution of marriage can kiss my big toe because I don't think it can look much worse than it already does!), but marrying under 25 doesn't have to mean divorce. The quality of the relationship is the most important part so I say congrats to anyone who knows they're ready to make that commitment! You have my blessing! 


xoxo

21 comments:

  1. you can't help what age you fall in love. although, i don't think i would want to marry this young (18). purely because i think it's important to build that connection with someone.

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  2. I definitely have wedding fever too, but I kind of have for the last five years or so. I think the earliest I'd want to get married is 25 or 26, but it'll most likely be later than that. Chris wants to wait until we have careers and are a little more stable in our lives, so whenever that happens we'll be ready!

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  3. I agree with you on the maturity part. I know this goes against A LOT of people's morals, but I think it's a great idea to live together first. Sometimes there are quirks that come out when you live together that you never noticed before. Maybe your significant other is messy, maybe they don't handle stress in the best way, or maybe they just chew to loudly and are always making random noises (haha)- but living together teaches you to work through the annoyances. I think a lot of reasons young marriages fail is because they aren't prepared for that type of stuff. You can love someone with all your heart, but still get tired of them. Sometimes my boyfriend and I argue and I just HAVE to leave/cool off, but at the end of the day, he's the one I want to fall asleep next to and the first face I want to see when I wake up. I just think a lot of people (even older couples) expect everything to be all bright and shiny- but life happens and sometimes life just flat out sucks. If you really love someone, respect them, want the best for them, and are willing to work at it, then who is to say that you're too young? As long as you're mature enough to understand that marriage means making a lot of compromises, then I think you will be fine.

    Even though I would love nothing more than to rock a ring on my left hand and say 'I do' tomorrow, I do want to wait until I am financially stable. I want to be able to pay for most of my wedding, pay my student loans, pay for everything that comes up before I get married. I guess my main point is, my boyfriend an I live together. We know everything about each other, we know what makes the other angry, how to calm the other down, and how to work together. I can tell when he's irritable due to fatigue and I can tell when he's irritable just because his belly is empty. We also pool our money together every month to pay for food, rent, electricity, etc and even though I know we could get married tomorrow and would be perfectly fine on our own, I do want to be graduated and on my way to a steady job before we plan a wedding. But waiting is just fine for me, because I know the next year or so will only make us stronger :]

    Wow, this ended up being a lot longer than I anticipated, but I hope I made sense!

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  5. So my opinion on it is, you get married when you are mature enough and ready to handle being with that one person for the rest of your life, usually people that get divorced get married for all the wrong reasons or just can't handle it. No matter what age you are, divorce still happens. My sister was 18 when she got married, and she's now 27 and her and her husband are happier than ever! Marriage is something that celebrates a relationship, and if you and your partner are stable enough and mature enough and ready to handle that, then so be it. Love is love, and there is no special age that you find it at. No matter your age, as long as you can handle what comes along in a marriage then congratulations (: I believe in getting married young, I'm 19 and I'm planning my wedding, and Ill be 20 when I tie the knot. Me and my fiance know both what we want out of our lives, and there's nothing that we want more than to spend the rest of our lives together and share those experiences. Another thing is, regardless of what people say about oh you're too young or whatever, don't listen to it, because it's your relationship, and when the time comes for marriage, you will know (:

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  6. So my opinion on it is, you get married when you are mature enough and ready to handle being with that one person for the rest of your life, usually people that get divorced get married for all the wrong reasons or just can't handle it. No matter what age you are, divorce still happens. My sister was 18 when she got married, and she's now 27 and her and her husband are happier than ever! Marriage is something that celebrates a relationship, and if you and your partner are stable enough and mature enough and ready to handle that, then so be it. Love is love, and there is no special age that you find it at. No matter your age, as long as you can handle what comes along in a marriage then congratulations (: I believe in getting married young, I'm 19 and I'm planning my wedding, and Ill be 20 when I tie the knot. Me and my fiance know both what we want out of our lives, and there's nothing that we want more than to spend the rest of our lives together and share those experiences. Another thing is, regardless of what people say about oh you're too young or whatever, don't listen to it, because it's your relationship, and when the time comes for marriage, you will know (:

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  7. I totally agree with you. If you are mature enough to know that you are in a stable, lasting relationship, and have truely shared your lives together, then yes why not get married young. My bf's parents married in their very early twenties and are still together now that they are both in their sixties. I think it's important that you really, really know a person, and I think until you've experienced 'the bad times' with your significant other you don't truely know them. I've lived with my other half for about two and a half years now (not including the year we spent living together in uni) and we've been together for five and a half years and I'd say we're only now at the point that we should be thinking about marriage. We bought our first house together last November so I guess that's the next step. But again until I get a job where I earn enough money to pay my share towards the wedding I wouldn't want to start planning my wedding. I'd quite happily where a ring on my finger now though :) I'm about to turn 26.

    Wow these are some long, deep answers you're getting Kaelah!!

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  8. i linked you on this post on my blog today(:

    http://thelittledotty.blogspot.com/2010/08/what-is-your-opinion-on-marrying-young.html

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  9. kaelah i'd love to hear your take on a woman proposing to a man. if the financial situation were right would you ever be the one to pop the question?

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  10. I married at 23. Not young not old in between. I have a "different" opinion. I think that when you're in love, in undeniable would move the world for eachother love, than you can "mature" together. You change together. Your dreams become one. And you grow together. When you find your "one" whhat should age, a career, or other's feelings have anything to say in stopping you from conquering the world together?!

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  11. LOVE LOVE.. i haven't seen this anywhere before!!

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  12. I got married when I was 21; I had been with him for a year when we got married. We split up when I was 25. My experience is certainly not everyone's experience, but I can say for myself that we totally rushed into things. I loved him dearly but I think we stopped being IN love with each other a couple years in... As a general rule, I say- why rush? If you know you're going to be together anyway then do it when the time is right. It's important to be able to grow together instead of growing apart. That said, I am 28 now and would definitely get married again! I think that there are plenty of people that it works out for at a young age, but I can say for myself that I do wish I had waited.

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  13. These pictures are gorgeous, they're totally out of www.oncewed.com!

    xx
    MILK TEETHS

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  14. these pictures are so wonderful, personally i wouldn't like to marry young but that's just me! x

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  15. I live in Utah where getting married young is super prevalent. The year after graduating high school I think I attended at least one wedding every weekend. Personally I am nowhere NEAR the stage in which marriage is something I think about (you probably need a bf before marriage thoughts can seriously enter the picture), but I'm also still a little bit selfish and impulsive and happy to be single and independent.

    Other people though matured much faster then me, so if they are mature enough to handle marriage and everything that goes with it, more power to them. But me personally, I'm 25 and not looking to settle down anytime soon.

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  16. every situation is obviously different but as someone who is 26 years old, been through a great deal in life thus far, has been in a wonderful/faithful relationship for 4 yrs, living together 3.5 yrs, engaged for 3 yrs, planned & called off our wedding yet remain together and want to get married i can offer these bits of advice.
    - our culture of more, more, more, now, now, now, immediate satisfaction and consumerism has definitely affected marriage. no one wants to "stick it out" anymore, no one wants to work at it, and i mean REALLY work at it. divorce is used so flippantly, as a threat for being angry, it's too available. people think you're going to be happy and feeling "in love" with that person all the time. YOU WON'T. there will be times when you or him are not feeling it, but you have to commit to figuring out why and trying to get back to that place of love and connection.
    - LIFE GETS IN THE WAY. marrying young has many challenges, but none greater than the fact that you grow & change SO MUCH in your 20s. you cannot even try to tell me that at 18 you are the same person you will be at 23, 25, 28, 30.. the difference is vast. if you cannot figure out how to be your own person and fulfill yourself, while being in that relationship, it won't work. you both need time and SPACE to grow. you need to make decisions based on what is not only good for the relationship, but what's good FOR YOU and YOUR DREAMS as well, and your partner has to be willing to let you put yourself first and vise versa. you have got to get to know yourself and who you want to be, and realize that your partner may not end up loving that person, or wanting the same things as that person - which is why you don't want to make such a commitment TOO SOON.
    - fidelity, sex, other people. let me tell you, your eyes won't always stay focused on your husband just because he's your husband. sooner or later you will realize that there are still other possibilities out there and unless you are wise enough and have lived enough, you will falter or your partner will falter. you have to be HONEST no matter how hard it is. i can tell you that when you are not feeling completely happy with your RELATIONSHIP, YOURSELF, your JOB, your DECORATING SCHEME, or whatever and some charming guy comes along and makes you feel butterflies in your tummy again, makes your heart race like your hubby hasn't in awhile, it DOES NOT mean you need to get a divorce and run into charming guys arms. you will always meet those people and continue to have those connections, turn the other way and RUN. you cannot be friends, it will turn scandalous. RUN. many marriages, young and old, are ruined by lust. after 4 years my guy and I know each other very well. it can get routine, boring and when the stresses of ADULT life come creeping in you can easily lose your connection and starting looking elsewhere for happiness, an easy out, some attention. DON'T. everyone, I repeat, EVERYONE has their problems. eventually it would get boring with new, charming guy as well. new charming guy is just as ANNOYING as husband. TALK to your partner about your naughty thoughts or wandering eye, explain how you're feeling, no matter how much it hurts to tell them you've been thinking about someone else, DO IT. it will save your relationship.
    - Lastly, make sure you're both headed in the same direction. it is very, if you don't, you will wake up one morning and want to escape from your marriage - whether it's been good or bad, because you'll feel trapped. take the TIME to carefully consider and fully realize the commitment being made.
    -make sure you're in love with who that person is now. not who you think they will become. they may never mature into the person you thought they would.
    ~Nicole Y.~

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  17. every situation is obviously different but as someone who is 26 years old, been through a great deal in life thus far, has been in a wonderful/faithful relationship for 4 yrs, living together 3.5 yrs, engaged for 3 yrs, planned & called off our wedding yet remain together and want to get married i can offer these bits of advice.
    - our culture of more, more, more, now, now, now, immediate satisfaction and consumerism has definitely affected marriage. no one wants to "stick it out" anymore, no one wants to work at it, and i mean REALLY work at it. divorce is used so flippantly, as a threat for being angry, it's too available. people think you're going to be happy and feeling "in love" with that person all the time. YOU WON'T. there will be times when you or him are not feeling it, but you have to commit to figuring out why and trying to get back to that place of love and connection.
    - LIFE GETS IN THE WAY. marrying young has many challenges, but none greater than the fact that you grow & change SO MUCH in your 20s. you cannot even try to tell me that at 18 you are the same person you will be at 23, 25, 28, 30.. the difference is vast. if you cannot figure out how to be your own person and fulfill yourself, while being in that relationship, it won't work. you both need time and SPACE to grow. you need to make decisions based on what is not only good for the relationship, but what's good FOR YOU and YOUR DREAMS as well, and your partner has to be willing to let you put yourself first and vise versa.
    - fidelity, sex, other people. let me tell you, your eyes won't always stay focused on your husband just because he's your husband. sooner or later you will realize that there are still other possibilities out there and unless you are wise enough and have lived enough, you will falter or your partner will falter. you have to be HONEST no matter how hard it is. i can tell you that when you are not feeling completely happy with your RELATIONSHIP, YOURSELF, your JOB, your DECORATING SCHEME, or whatever and some charming guy comes along and makes you feel butterflies in your tummy again, makes your heart race like your hubby hasn't in awhile, it DOES NOT mean you need to get a divorce and run into charming guys arms. you will always meet those people and continue to have those connections, turn the other way and RUN. you cannot be friends, it will turn scandalous. RUN. TALK to your partner about your naughty thoughts or wandering eye, explain how you're feeling, no matter how much it hurts to tell them you've been thinking about someone else, DO IT. it will save your relationship.
    - Lastly, make sure you're both headed in the same direction. it is very, if you don't, you will wake up one morning and want to escape from your marriage - whether it's been good or bad, because you'll feel trapped.
    -make sure you're in love with who that person is now. not who you think they will become. they may never mature into the person you thought they would.
    ~Nicole Y.~

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  18. TOTALLY agree with you. Love the post and all of the beautiful images, girly!
    xoxo,
    www.hollyinheels.com

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  19. I've never been one of those girls who dream about her wedding since little but when i see this kind of pictures they make me reconsider things. But first, I need to find someone to marry...

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  20. I personally don'y get the issue with it AT ALL. I was married at 22. This year will be our 3 year wedding anniversary, and our 9 year anniversary of when we began dating. I get a LOT of crap about it, but we couldn't be happier. I *constantly* get "YOU'RE MARRRRIIIEDDD?" And of course the automatic follow up is "How OLD are you?" Does it really matter? I'm surprised that I still get it practically everytime I meet someone new- I'm 25 now & my husband is 28 so I wouldn't exactly call it young to be married anyway!
    It makes me laugh, because just because we were married fairly young, people automatically assume we are idiots who barely know each other- and I swear, the number of people who didn't even know me and told me it wouldn't last when I was engaged!..It's so rude! We were together 6 years on our wedding day. We know each other inside and out- not exactly irresponsible hey? The thing is- if someone is 30 & getting married after two months- all they get is "Congratulation" & "Finally!" *grumble.*

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  21. anon #1: i'm 100% for a woman purposing to a man! if the time and situation is right, why not?! i think the social stigma that only men should propose is preposterous! especially since we're finally at a time where same sex marriage is legal in some places! i say go for it! :D

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