We finally saw a few preview photos from Sarah + Josh of Arrow and Apple. Still anxiously awaiting the rest, which we'll be sure to share. Here's a little peek at our chilly (49 degrees!) wedding day. Thanks for letting me gush about it for the past forever!
Below I spill a little bit of my heart in regards to our wedding + outside opinions. Feel free to click "Read More" to read it if you'd like, but don't feel obligated. :)
I can't believe I'm going to tarnish a beautiful post with something so trivial because I know I don't need to justify our decisions to anyone, but maybe it'll shed some light on why we did things the way we did (because it's been questioned elsewhere, mainly Tumblr): I wore a cardigan to my wedding because it's very "me". It wasn't a fancy cardigan, because I'm not a fancy girl and our wedding was very "country casual". I also wore $19 flats from Forever 21, and they were perfect. Comfortable, cute, but something I can continue to wear from here on out. Being able to infuse little bits of our wedding into my daily life is something I've already grown to love. I've had people say "Oh well I would have done this or that" and that's so great! When you get married (if you haven't yet), please do those things! But know that our wedding was everything I wanted and more. Down to my less-than-expensive attire to the food our families made and the programs we sewed the morning of the wedding. It was DIY overload and there were times each and every one of us involved wanted to kill someone, but the end justified the means. Mike and I did not want to become caricatures of ourselves with our wedding. Sure, typically couples get a little more gussied up than normal, but our wedding wasn't this over the top declaration of love and commitment... I made that commitment the day I began my life with him (spoiler alert: your life with your partner does not "begin" on your wedding day). I made that commitment again when I decided to be a mother-figure day in and day out to Toby. Nothing has changed since our wedding has come and gone... instead, our wedding was simply a vehicle to share that commitment with so many around us.
We're simple people, and it would seem silly (to us) to have our wedding be anything else. Every couple decides how important different parts of their wedding/marriage is, and that's why weddings are such a personal event. It's not a one-size-fits-all plan. I ended up writing our entire ceremony (thank you Google!) at 2am the morning of our wedding because the standard civil ceremony the officiant read didn't resonate with us. We even had a moment of recognition for gay marriage in our ceremony. It didn't please everyone (I'm convinced that's why half of my extended family bolted immediately following the ceremony), but we felt in our hearts to be right and true. Thinking back to our wedding days makes me laugh and cry each and every time. It was so beautiful, even with the slip ups and weather. And I wish I could relive the dancing line in the barn every single day. We were surrounded by people we love and you know what? It was awesome. I would've enjoyed it had I worn a paper bag. So, with all of that being said, if you're planning your own wedding or just daydreaming into the future, don't worry about tradition or what seems "appropriate" for a wedding. Do what YOU want. If that means courthouse wedding or eloping or wearing costumes, do it! Because those are the memories you'll forever have. xo