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// Flynn Wedding : Preview

We finally saw a few preview photos from Sarah + Josh of Arrow and Apple. Still anxiously awaiting the rest, which we'll be sure to share. Here's a little peek at our chilly (49 degrees!) wedding day. Thanks for letting me gush about it for the past forever!

Below I spill a little bit of my heart in regards to our wedding + outside opinions. Feel free to click "Read More" to read it if you'd like, but don't feel obligated. :)
I can't believe I'm going to tarnish a beautiful post with something so trivial because I know I don't need to justify our decisions to anyone, but maybe it'll shed some light on why we did things the way we did (because it's been questioned elsewhere, mainly Tumblr): I wore a cardigan to my wedding because it's very "me". It wasn't a fancy cardigan, because I'm not a fancy girl and our wedding was very "country casual". I also wore $19 flats from Forever 21, and they were perfect. Comfortable, cute, but something I can continue to wear from here on out. Being able to infuse little bits of our wedding into my daily life is something I've already grown to love. I've had people say "Oh well I would have done this or that" and that's so great! When you get married (if you haven't yet), please do those things! But know that our wedding was everything I wanted and more. Down to my less-than-expensive attire to the food our families made and the programs we sewed the morning of the wedding. It was DIY overload and there were times each and every one of us involved wanted to kill someone, but the end justified the means. Mike and I did not want to become caricatures of ourselves with our wedding. Sure, typically couples get a little more gussied up than normal, but our wedding wasn't this over the top declaration of love and commitment... I made that commitment the day I began my life with him (spoiler alert: your life with your partner does not "begin" on your wedding day). I made that commitment again when I decided to be a mother-figure day in and day out to Toby. Nothing has changed since our wedding has come and gone... instead, our wedding was simply a vehicle to share that commitment with so many around us. 

We're simple people, and it would seem silly (to us) to have our wedding be anything else. Every couple decides how important different parts of their wedding/marriage is, and that's why weddings are such a personal event. It's not a one-size-fits-all plan. I ended up writing our entire ceremony (thank you Google!) at 2am the morning of our wedding because the standard civil ceremony the officiant read didn't resonate with us. We even had a moment of recognition for gay marriage in our ceremony. It didn't please everyone (I'm convinced that's why half of my extended family bolted immediately following the ceremony), but we felt in our hearts to be right and true. Thinking back to our wedding days makes me laugh and cry each and every time. It was so beautiful, even with the slip ups and weather. And I wish I could relive the dancing line in the barn every single day. We were surrounded by people we love and you know what? It was awesome. I would've enjoyed it had I worn a paper bag. So, with all of that being said, if you're planning your own wedding or just daydreaming into the future, don't worry about tradition or what seems "appropriate" for a wedding. Do what YOU want. If that means courthouse wedding or eloping or wearing costumes, do it! Because those are the memories you'll forever have. xo

124 comments:

  1. The photos with Toby are my favorites. So adorable!!!

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  2. The wedding was so beautiful! And that picture of the three of you with Toby in your arms, breaking my heart!
    Your acknowledgment that so many people don't have the right to marry who they choose yet was by far my favorite part of the ceremony! It's sad that so many people still feel so different, but I am glad that you stood up for what you believe in. It makes me so proud to be your friend.

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    1. i'm so glad you (and greg!) were able to come from so far! it would not have even been remotely the same without you standing up there beside me! love you so much <3

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  3. These pictures are awesome! I totally agree with you that your commitment does not begin on your wedding day, instead it is a celebration of what already is. That is how my husband and I viewed our wedding day 9 years ago. It was super simple, and not everyone liked it, but it was perfect for us.

    xx, C

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  4. Ahh such gorgeous photos! You both look so happy :3

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  5. You look gorgeous, and more importantly, really happy in those photos. I love simple weddings but I also believe each couple should do what's right for them!

    I also wore a cardigan on my wedding day - cardigan-haterz gonna hate.

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  6. Congrats. I love what you said about weddings being personal. It sounds like you did exactly what makes you happy and that's the way to be, not only in marriage but in life!
    I wish you the best of luck with your future :)
    x

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  7. Oh my goodness Kaelah these photos are just amazing! You and Mike look so freaking adorable and Toby is one stylish dude! I can't wait to see more photos! Oh, and girl you where whatever you want because you look gorgeous in anything you wear!

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  8. I actually got married on the same day as you guys up at our place in WV and we had the same super chilly weather as you all did. But we still made it so much fun, as you guys seemed to have done as well!

    I couldn't agree with you more about making your wedding a part of you and not just something that you aren't. My wedding was also very DIY, I found very cheap dress that I just completely redesigned to make it fit me. And we ended up building every piece of furniture that was used at the wedding (14 picnic tables, bar tables, pie tables, all the day before the wedding pretty much, it was kind of crazy haha) And it was absolutely perfect, it just felt so us, and we wouldn't have wanted it any different!

    Cannot wait to see more photos!

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  9. Your wedding photos are beautiful! I think the cardigan is great, you did what felt right to you and that's all that matters. Wish the three of you lots of happiness. :)

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  10. I really love how you made your wedding YOUR OWN! It looked so beautiful and you looked gorgeous! Congrats! ♥ It really bugs me when people tell you how to have your own wedding though lol. Also I'm kind of jealous you were able to DIY pretty much all of it. I'm not that crafty sadly and our wedding is out of state so yeah lol. But none the less everything looks like it turned out perfect! :)

    Jazmyn @ Sugar Pink

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  11. That wedding looked beautiful, and I really hate that you had to write all of that beneath the photos--that you had to justify your special day and what was right for you guys.

    I hate how judgmental people can be, but I'm glad you had a wonderful day.

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  12. The pink and gray bridesmaid outfits are amazing!! You look completely beautiful.


    chloe

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  13. Amen! My wedding was the same way. I'm big on doing what makes you happy and who cares about the rest. Congrats and power to free a mind :)

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  14. I think the cardigan is absolutely stunning, and I can't wait to hear more about the gay marriage reference story...
    -Kati

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  15. These photos look beautiful! As do you. And Toby looks so adorable :D
    (I know you're not, but...) Don't let other people tell you how your wedding day 'should' of been. I'm positive it was a wonderful day and you done everything you wanted on that day. You done things your way and there's nothing better than that. People's negative opinions about your wedding are irrelevant because it's YOUR wedding :)

    You all look wonderful!

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  16. I love the photos so far! can't wait to see the rest. Your wedding was right for you and that's all that matters. I love that you wore a cardie and flats! and you all looked beautifully happy which is the most important thing.

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  17. Beautiful photos!

    It's absurd that anyone would criticize your intricately personalized wedding day. You stayed true to yourself and your love despite all the expectations that go along with the word "wedding", and that's amazing!

    - Shauna

    P.S. As a newlywed lady-lover (although happily legally recognized here in Vancouver), I think it's awesome that you paid tribute to those who can't share their commitment the same way that you can. :)

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  18. Your wedding photos are gorgeous! Y'all looked so so good. I hate that so many people try to tell other people how to live, or have their wedding, or even dictate who they can marry. Stupid haters. You looked beautiful and I love that Mike wore a 3 piece suit! And how cute is little Toby... omg...

    I wore a cardigan at my wedding too, over a $50 white flowery sundress from the mall. It was cold and cloudy in the middle of winter (August in Australia) and we got married in a half dead rose garden. lolz. There were a total of 6 people there- my dad, 2 of his friends, the celebrant who was an old family friend and us. It was super short and casual but I married the love of my life and that's all that matters. :)

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  19. Goodness these pictures make me tear up they are so filled and over flowing with happiness and joy ;.;

    Congratulations Mrs. Flynn!

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  20. Your wedding ensemble is very YOU, and as such could not be more appropriate. You look beautiful and happy! Congratulations to you and your little family. I can't wait to see more pictures!!

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  21. gorgeous pictures
    so many lovely details, It looks exceptionally personal and full of love and fun (which I feel a wedding should be!)
    I really like that you've included every day items and haven't gone over board with the unnecessarily expensive bits
    http://ahandfulofhope.blogspot.co.uk

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  22. These pictures look so beautiful! I see so many pictures of weddings that all look the same, I find myself wondering whether people are just following a generic 'template' for how a wedding 'should' be. I think its awesome that you and Mike had the courage to turn around and say "we're getting married our way". I really can't wait to see the rest of the pictures.
    Also, how freakin' adorable is your little one?!

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  23. I had this conversation with someone recently. I work in a hotel that does a lot of weddings and everyone is just SO fancy. I think if you're not fancy in your everyday life then why would you be fancy on your wedding day? I'm a country gal and my wedding will reflect that (one day!) xx

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  24. Gorgeous photos! I can't wait to see more. I am getting married this summer and we will also be having a non-traditional wedding that's ver "us." I know much of my family won't appreciate it, but we don't care. It's our wedding. Thank you for your words and justification of the importance of doing your wedding your way. Thank you for the inspiration and for sharing your special day with us!

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  25. I love this post so much.
    aside from how beautiful everything looks and how amazingly happy you guys look, I love that it was a very you wedding.
    I love that you did it yourself and that you guys were comfortable, it wouldn't have been very y'all otherwise. Go you! <3 <3

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  26. Every single person wants something different for their wedding day, and no matter what you'll never be able to please everyone of your guests, but for complete strangers to criticize you for what was your dream wedding is just absurd. It looks like it was an amazing day, and you guys are going to have many more amazing days to come weather they are lavishly over the top or just the 3 of you hanging out at home :) Congrats lovely lady!

    (I got married at the courthouse, just me and my now husband in a F21 dress that I already owned and went to dinner and bowling with friends after)

    xo
    Alex

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  27. your wedding was so perfectly you, just the way it should be! love you. haha just creeped on your tumblr, the way you respond to asshats is the best..
    Also, saw the walnut tree pic..our house parking area is directly under a 100+ big ass black walnut tree-those mugs are dangerous! haha

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  28. First off, the photos are absolutely gorgeous and I can't wait to see the rest! I love the light pink and gray color palette -- beautiful!!

    Secondly, thank you so much for the second half of your post. I'm not married yet, but I don't know if I want a fancy wedding, or even a wedding at all! I kinda just wanna go to the justice of the peace and jet off to our honeymoon! In my opinion, weddings are extremely personal and they should be unique to the couple. I also agree with you -- a wedding isn't the start of your life together! It should have already started before then!

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  29. You're totally right, your wedding should be about you and the person you love re-affirming your love for one another. Not about anything else. I'm glad that your day was exactly what you wanted. That last photo of the three of you is just perfect, you all look so happy! Congratulations again Kaelah! xoxo

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  30. Your pics are absolutely stunning...I can't wait to see more!
    You totally hit the nail on the head about weddings being what YOU want. We also did things a little differently and I wouldn't change it for the world. People who don't understand that a wedding is an expression of who you are as people and what you want are not worth the time and the effort!
    Wishing you all tons and tons of happiness x

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  31. You don't even need to acknowledge those people. You wedding looks beautiful. All that matters is your love and that this was your day. Some people spend thousands on a dress to wear one day. And if you want that, and can afford it, awesome. But you can wear pieces from your wedding on other days and you didn't have to save years for it. You looked stunning and you had a great time. That's all anyone could ever hope for.

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  32. Aw, the moment I saw you all in cardigans I thought it was PERFECT. All of these pictures are beautiful; I bet the day was wonderful. x

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  33. Your wedding looks like my kind of wedding girl :)
    I'm a simple girl at hear too and when things feel at their more pure and simple, that is when my heart truly swells and I clearly see the meaning behind everything, I see the love and I see what a wedding is all about. One of my high school friends got married to a dude I didn't particularly like, but despite that, I bawled my eyes out at her wedding because I knew she was taking an oath and joining with this guy in honesty and truth, she truly loved him. And she did it in a way that was truly her. They only spent 1,000 dollars on their wedding and it really was so simple, but it was SO beautiful because they were transparent and honest about the union of their love. And that is all that matters.
    You wedding style looks incredibly gorgeous to me! Like dream styling :) Us girls who aren't over the top fancy fancy can really appreciate your style, lovely lady. And what is so much more important is that we see your honest and devoted love that encompasses your family. You felt like you on your wedding rather than dressing up to please blog readers or to be featured on wedding blogs. You felt like you which meant your wedding was everything it needed to be. Honest, true, and filled with love. I admire you girl and good for you for having the wedding that suits you best. It truly looks beautiful and radiant, as do you :)
    xo Moorea

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  34. The pictures look beautiful!! You can't even tell it was 49 degrees out.

    Your wedding is a representation of you and your spouse. I think you pretty much nailed it. It's so you and I love it!!

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  35. Weddings should be all about the people getting married and what they're about! I wore a little French veil and a short dress with a skirt made of tiny rosettes, and my husband wore my grandfather's Bolo tie. We got married at my parent's house in the front yard and had the reception in the bad and instead of a band or a DJ we had Karaoke. The readings we had were a Frank O'Hara poem and a passage from Plato's Symposium (which is also a passage that acknowledges soul mates and romantic love outside of the heterosexual "norm".) And yeah, not everyone was pleased, including, I'm sure, my new in-laws. But they weren't the ones getting married! I'm so, so happy that the trend is becoming more about super-personal weddings and not a one-size fits all things. If your vision is super traditional and all that then awesome! If not, also awesome! But weddings should be (I think) about sharing a little piece of yourselves as a couple with your loved ones, not about fulfilling some princess fantasy of only one person involved. I think the photos are gorgeous and I love that the wedding seems to really reflect you guys has a couple!

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  36. Ahhhh! Finally :D I was sooo excited to see these. You, and everyone else, looked absolutely fabulous!
    I'd chose a wedding like yours any day.

    Congratulations again and I can't wait to see more!!

    <3 xox - Danielle, http://thesweetnesstalks.blogspot.co.uk/

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  37. wow, it's so gross that people feel entitled to weight in negatively on your special day just because you are a public figure. Weddings are personal affairs, meant to celebrate the love between the couple. I think everyone should be mature enough to understand this, especially those who don't even have a strong bond with the couple beyond following them on twitter or tumblr. I love that the wedding snaps scream Kaelah and Mike! Looking forward to seeing any other pictures you share with us. I wish you. your hubbster and your little ones a continuing life full of joy and happiness.

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  38. I can't believe anyone said *anything* negative about your wedding. Your wedding fit you guys more than I've ever seen a wedding 'fit' a bride and groom! ♥ It was stunning!

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  39. I feel sad that you felt you had to address this when it was YOUR wedding day to have how you wanted! You look gorgeous and I love what you and Mike both wore. And Toby is such a beautiful kid!

    ▲ WOLF WHISTLE ▲

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  40. I think thats why I enjoyed watching the process of your wedding so much! Because it was so you! I applaud your down to earth approach and I will be doing the same in my wedding. Also if you have the chance could you reply to this and let me know how you acknowledged gay marriage in your wedding or email me (sarahdee@live.com) ? I will not be getting married anytime soon but when I do I would love to do the same! Thank you.

    xoxo missdottidee.blogspot.com

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  41. Your wedding looked so gorgeous! That last photo makes my heart smile. So beautiful.

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  42. I LOVE that you had a moment of recognition for gay marriage.. that is really neat! I love what you had to say. My boyfriend and I have already decided that we are doing our wedding OUR way. (Whenever that will be! Hah) For us that means casual, relaxed, no typical traditions (garter toss, first dance, things like that) Because we are just not that kind of people. We are quite and reserved. We aren't even going to have dancing because well, we just both don't like to dance! Instead I thought of outdoor games and lots of food! Anyways, the point is I love unique weddings that have the personality of the couple and not just doing the usual traditions because everyone else does them. But of course, if you like those things, then that is totally fine, too! :)

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  43. These are SO GORGEOUS. Wow!!! Just amazing.

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  44. Your wedding is absolutely what I want ours to be like. I think it's so adorable that you wore a cardigan and I really love that each of your bridesmaids wore different dresses. I've been toying with that idea for a while now and seeing how cute you all look together has made it even more of an awesome idea.

    Honestly, through reading your blog, I would say that your wedding totally sums you two up! Your dress and accessories were perfect and so "you" (can I say that without actually knowing you?) haha. I really dislike weddings that are just "weddings", the typical "big dress, big meal, big fancy cars" the ones that don't show you anything about the couple themselves and yours looked like it did that perfectly :)
    Xx

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  45. Eeek! Your photos are GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!

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  46. I've just got to say to completely ignore peoples' opinions. It doesn't matter one iota what *other* people think about *your* wedding. It was your day to express your love to each other and who the hell cares if you were wearing a cardigan or a four thousand dollar mink cape? It seriously gets my nerves that people think that it's okay to have opinions about other peoples' lives, including their weddings. Do not give those people power over you because you'll never be allowed to have the happiness that you should have when looking back at that amazing day. Sometimes people just can't say anything nice - or they have to temper the nice with a "but". That's just their unfortunate personality. Don't let it affect you. Your wedding looked lovely.

    And keep in mind that weddings are a HUGE business and that business makes people think that all weddings have to have certain components to be perfect. Just watch any of the wedding shows on TV to prove that. There's this formula that people are made to believe that they have to follow and well, it's complete and utter bunk.

    Congratulations to you kids!

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  47. Sarah did such a fantastic job on your photos, WOW! I'm a firm believer that weddings should be unique to you as a couple and that everyone should love & respect that. Woohoo!

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  48. These photos are so beautiful! I especially love the one of you holding Toby.
    Of course you wore a cardigan! It's so you.

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  49. You look beautiful Kaelah! So glad your wedding was everything you wanted :)

    <3

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  50. Your wedding was beautiful (obviously!) and looks like a lot of fun.
    But I think possibly the best part is the menu. I'd much rather have some really good food that reflects the couple than the red meat/fish/chicken/maybe vegetarian option.

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  51. I am all about weddings that express exactly who YOU are as a couple, that's what we're celebrating in the first place! You expressed so many of my own thoughts for my own wedding someday in the future. Your wedding looked absolutely lovely and you looked BEAUTIFUL! Congratulations!

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  52. LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!!! This wedding suits you perfectly (not like I really know you or anything) but it's indeed simple yet so personal! I can not wait to see the rest of the pictures. Also you look GORGEOUS! <3
    -K

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  53. Congrats! I love the colors of the wedding and also the food table looks absolutely amazing.
    Carlee
    Almost Endearing

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  54. OMG!
    Your wedding was a dream!
    So lovely. I´m so happy to see u smile :)

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  55. It looks like it was a wonderful time! And the food looks like it was delicious!


    http://www.etsy.com/shop/OwlEyeVintage

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  56. From what I've seen so far, looks like it was perfect to me! May you continue to enjoy your gorgeous memories and build upon them for a lifetime. xo

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  57. From what I've seen and read so far, it looks and sounds like it was absolutely perfect! May you continue to enjoy your gorgeous memories and build upon them for a lifetime. xo

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  58. The last picture and the picture of you holding Toby KILLS ME. I love all of you even though y'all are somewhat strangers to me, yet I feel like I've known you for years. Literally tears came up in my eyes looking at all of these photos and reading your words.

    This post really makes me think back to my first marriage, the struggle, and the divorce. I have hated myself and regretted it entirely for so many years now because of how the local "old fashion christians" (hypocrites) have looked at me as a "sinner" for getting divorced at such a young age when marriage is supposed to be a life time thing. Fast forward, I'm in another serious relationship, and the thought of getting engaged and making that "huge commitment" again terrified me. Whenever friends or Josh brought up the subject of engagement rings or marriage, I always avoided it. Eventually Josh and I just sat down and talked about it one on one, and he reminded me that love has no specific guidelines, no rules, no limits. Love is free. It's whatever I want it to be.

    Basically, what I'm trying to say is I finally feel like you do. Marriage isn't a huge commitment, it's just a celebration of your love for one another. I love how open minded you are and how you are aware of your feelings for Mike and Toby. I love your outlook on marriage, that love is equal and it doesn't just "start" after being married, and I love the fact that you're not afraid to express that. Thank you for being an inspiration, Kaelah. Thank you for reminding me that love is free and whatever I want it to be.
    xoxox
    lyndsey of hellolyndsey

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  59. ugh adorabblleeee. these came out beautifully!!!!! as;dfjasd;lf jasd;l

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  60. Kaelah, I loved your wedding, and I loved that I got to be a part of it. It was a beautiful day, and honestly, if you hadn't mentioned the weather, or anything else that didn't go exactly the way you had planned, I wouldn't had even remembered. It was a beautiful day and I was stoked to be there. love yall and cant wait to see more of sarah's beautiful photos.

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  61. ps. i said beautiful 3 times, just in case you didn't know I thought it was beautiful! ;)

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  62. You should know this better than anyone!! but maybe it's cloudy because it has to do with something so personal.

    THE ONLY reason someone would say anything about any aspect of your wedding is because they are jealous! sad and jealous. It seems like more than ever for internet standards we have to judge how good something is by how many trolls feel the need to come out and shit on it...and girl trolls are the worst. Your wedding looks BEAUTIFUL as does everyone pictured,clothes,food,decor. I mean really! I am always so impressed when someone has such a clear vision and it comes through in every way. These photos will inspire so many people into doing things more personal and handmade, although I have to say it looks like something out of a magazine shoot, but that's just the thing you're also changing the perception of diy and how beautiful it it is. Bravo on your wedding and just take pleasure in the fact that when you look back on these photos in 20 years you wont remember the shitty and snide remarks.
    <3 Danielle

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  63. p.s. We we're married at the courthouse coming up on 8 years ago. We were engaged for 2 months and woke up one day, realized it was the day that my husbands mom and step dad were married and grandma 'n grandpa. My favorite thing about our wedding is the receipt.
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/danielleorama/4539596787/in/set-72157594348931889
    I find it so hilarious and it really is very us, completely unconventional.
    We had a party a month later and yes, there was a tuxedo tshirt ^__^
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/danielleorama/4539596793/in/set-72157594348931889/

    If you and mike ever need something to watch while you're relaxing at home you might check out this documentary we're in.I think any creative, self motivated person would appreciate it + you get to see our proposal and I guarantee you'll tear up ^__^
    https://movies.netflix.com/movie/Indie-Game-The-Movie/70229918

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  64. I appreciate the honesty! I'm so happy your wedding day was special for you and Mike (and Toby too) that's what it's supposed to be about anyways right? I think that's one of the many reasons why my Mike and I don't seem very excited about the wedding process. We are simple people, I don't parade around in expensive things, and he likes me just how I am. I thought you all looked lovely- even little Toby! So cute! I love your advice, and I wish some people wouldn't get so carried away about their weddings- some people go into some crazy debt over one day! Why not go on a cool adventure together instead?! :)

    Thanks for posting this- you always have a way of wearing that sweet heart of yours on your sleeve, and I can appreciate that every time :)

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  65. I plan on eloping someday, but if I do have an actual wedding (or party after), yours is basically exactly what I want! I can't imagine wearing a dress that costs thousands of dollars and will only be worn once or having a super stuffy reception. Thanks so much for sharing all of your beautiful photos (and your explanation, even though it wasn't necessary). Props for the gay marriage shout out too! :)

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  66. These photos are gorgeous! Such a beautiful bride! I can't wait to see the rest!

    XO Krystin

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  67. beautiful photos! more posting about your wedding please, you haven't done enough yet!

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  68. The photos are beautiful! Your wedding looks perfect and very you :) It is sad that you had to justify your choices to others, unfortunately I feel I may have to do the same when it comes time for me to get married. Also, wonderful that you gave recognition to gay marriage :)

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  69. Ah simply gorgeous!!! Kaelah these are just stunning, the colours, decor, EVERYTHING <3

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  70. These pics are so wonderful! I've never seen a DIY wedding be so successfull and, well, classy I guess is the word. Your outfit was perfect and you looked beyond stunning. Congrats for sticking to your guns and doing what you guys wanted. I hope to someday be having my own DIY wedding (gotta find the guy first!), but I hope it goes off as well as yours did. I wish you and your beautiful little family the best for your bright future :)


    Not sure if it's normal for "strangers" to post on here, but I've been a follower of your Tumblr for a while, and I'm a total fan of your blogs and work. Just so you know it's not some random creeper posting, haha!

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  71. Aw! What a gorgeous wedding! And that photo of you and Toby? Priceless!

    I'm so glad you guys did what seemed right to you for your wedding - and I love the cardigan you wore! It's just so "you!" And getting to wear it on normal, every-day days must be really cool. I def want to do something similar when I get married (but I'm thinking more like sparkly pink stiletto heels. Not as practical but very "me" lol!)

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  72. Wow, I can't believe people are criticizing your wedding!!! My husband and I chose an unconventional way to get married as well, and I firmly believe no one has the right to critique anyone else's special day. As long as the two of you are happy then fantastic!!!!!

    Cheers to the two of you for following your hearts and having a day you wanted!!! The pictures are beautiful!!!

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  73. You are SO right! We feel the same way and our wedding was similarly casual. We made it special in our own way and even if it was just us and the people we love without the little touches of "us" here and there...we still would've had the best day. You guys are fantastic and I'm so happy you've made it "official"! ;) xo.

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  74. Your weddings looks absolutely incredible and it seriously boggles my mind that anyone could find anything to critcise! Your thoughts on weddings and marriage are very smiliar to mine. When Reubs and I (eventually) get married it will be very low key because that's how we are! I believe a wedding should reflect the couple getting married and a big fancy white wedding is so NOT us. Also, I could not agree more on the fact that life with your partner does not begin on your wedding day!! Reubs and I have been together almost 8 years and when we get married nothing will change - it will simply be a day of celebration with the people we love. I think sometimes people just get really caught up in the "perfect day" hype and forget that getting married shouldn't be about the wedding day, it should be about the marriage to come!

    Katie x

    PS LOVE the pic of you and Toby. Too cute for words!

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  75. i think your wedding was beautiful. i love the simplicity behind it. i say all the time, i do NOT want a fancy wedding, it's not me! i think it's adorable you wore a cardigan and flats. it's completely you. it was your day, you can do things however you want. i am a long time reader of yours and i just want to congratulate the two of you, you make my heart melt ;3 <3

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  76. What a beautiful post! It looks like it was an incredible day, and these photos are so sweet!
    I've never heard of a couple recognising gay marriage like that before (although I have heard of couples choosing to stay unmarried until things change) but its a wonderful idea.
    These pictures have given me this goofy grin on my face haha (especially the shot of the three of you, it's the second-last one I believe?). I hope I am fortunate enough to build a sweet little family someday :]
    Wishing you all the very, very best!

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  77. Every single thing you wrote was PERFECT. I literally bookmarked this page to reread when I need it.
    Oh, and the photos are magnificent!

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  78. Your pictures are totally amazing, you all look gorgeous, glad to here that your day went well for you all :)

    As for having to explain everything, its a shame really that you felt you needed to do that. Its your wedding and that's all that should matter, its a shame ppl have been so judgmental! You had an amazing celebration, don't allow others to taint it every.

    Congratulations Mrs. Flynn xx

    Kate

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  79. These photos are GREAT! You look stunning Kaelah, and totally you! I seriously cannot believe anyone would dare criticize your (or anyone elses!) wedding choices! There's no need to explain to us lot because we all love you. We read your blog because we love how you do things your own way and have such confidence in it. Sod the others! ;)

    I'm getting married next summer, and although i've pointed out to my family it wont be the traditional 'do they were hoping for - they are still pointing out things I should and shouldn't be doing. I don't want to play make believe for a day! I want to show OUR love in OUR way and have the perfect day for us!

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  80. You all look so beautiful, my favorite photos are the last two ones, amazing!

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  81. First and foremost I want to say that I LOVED the pictures. Your wedding looked like so much fun. Secondly "HEAR HEAR" to what you said about your wedding reflecting you. my boy and I always talk about he big circus weddings and laugh... I have never understood why people have to pretend theyre something theyre not because thats what every one else is expecting from them. It seems like you guys have got off on a pretty strong foot... lots of love and luck to your future. Love Elle xo http://skylarkingnanny.blogspot.co.uk/

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  82. Beautiful! I didn't even notice you were wearing a cardigan at first because it is so you :) everything looked so perfect!

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  85. & that is so right. It is YOUR day not anyone elses. That wedding looks like it was perfect!

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  86. So cute! Love the picture of you and your bridesmaids. I love what you said about it being totally "you." I felt the same way....luckily I'm not as well known as you online so I didn't get all the shit from people. It needs to be something that reflects who you and your partner are, not a show to please other people. Glad it was so great!

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  87. Your story really gets down to the meaning of the wedding ceremony. I believe your ideas are sincere and beautiful. Reading this made me feel the warmth of how much you really care for each other. It's beautiful, and I really wish I could experience it like you.

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  88. The thing about the backlash RE how you dressed... if you had chosen to dress differently (say, in a poofy floor-length *gown* from David's Bridal with a giant veil & teeny little satin shoes), people would have been all up in arms about how it wasn't "you" and it was too different and blah blah blah. I get that everyone wants to have their own opinion on shit that is essentially none of their business, but when it comes to a wedding... ughhh, people just need to keep their thoughts to themselves.

    Your wedding was seriously gorgeous & it reflected both you & Mike so well. I loved how unpretentious everything & everyone was, and how we were really all just there to celebrate a beautiful union between an awesome couple :)

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  89. I can't imagine people thinking you're wedding was "less than". I personally think it was super cute and DIY-chic. I don't even realize or see the "casual"-ness of it all, because more than anything you feel the love, happiness, and fun emitting from the pictures. And that's exactly what a wedding (in my opinion) is all about. So, you my darling, nailed it! :)

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  90. I've never commented even though I've been enjoying your blog for a long time, but I HAD to comment on this post. First, congratulations! Second, I can't believe people questioned your choices! Way to stick to what you wanted. And you wrote about it really beautifully. Many times I read about people's simple weddings, and it comes off as "we don't buy into the wedding hype like all you other idiots." You just came across and honest and encouraging and happy. Kudos to you!

    Also, this cracked me up: "Spoiler alert: your life with your partner does not "begin" on your wedding day." So true! My partner and I are constantly baffled by this kind of thinking. We made a commitment to each other a long, long time ago. When we get married it will be because we want to celebrate with our friends and families, not because it will turn us into something we aren't already.

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  91. I've never commented even though I've been enjoying your blog for a long time, but I HAD to comment on this post. First, congratulations! Second, I can't believe people questioned your choices! Way to stick to what you wanted. And you wrote about it really beautifully. Many times I read about people's simple weddings, and it comes off as "we don't buy into the wedding hype like all you other idiots." You just came across and honest and encouraging and happy. Kudos to you!

    Also, this cracked me up: "Spoiler alert: your life with your partner does not "begin" on your wedding day." So true! My partner and I are constantly baffled by this kind of thinking. We made a commitment to each other a long, long time ago. When we get married it will be because we want to celebrate with our friends and families, not because it will turn us into something we aren't already. (sorry if this posted twice)

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  92. I wish more people spent less money on things for their weddings like you did. I was barefoot at my wedding. My dress was $50 and on sale and I wore it to my prom (my husband and I were together then too) and I had it altered a bit for my wedding. I didn't spend much money, but I married him, and that is what is important. Your pictures so far are so pretty and the food and everything looks amazing!!!
    +Victoria+

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  93. The pictures are gorgeous and so full of love, as are your words. You are so totally pure and true and I love this blog and being a reader, because of that. I agree with everything you said and it hurts my heart to hear that people felt the need to burden you with "you should have"s. On the hand, my heart swelled up at reading that you mentioned gay marriage at your own. That is a beautiful gesture. I'm so happy for you and Mike and can't wait to see the rest of the pictures of your wedding.

    xo Ashley
    luckylittlebird.blogspot.com

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  94. Good for you, Kaelah! Our wedding was actually VERY VERY similar to yours and it was Oct 22nd of last year, so close in time too. We had a wedding at a camp ground, I made pretty much everything, my cousin and her husband made the food and we served and ate it in the camp cafeteria.

    People judged it and made interesting comments when asking us about the planning and then again after the wedding, but all that matters is it was 100% completely Blaine & Aileen.

    Your wedding was gorgeous :)

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  95. Girl, its your life with your man, and your family. You do what you want to do. Don't let them steal your joy. I am right there with you. We got married at the county assessor's office. Our wedding reception was under the guise of a going away party. Right about the middle of the party we showed a video of us getting married earlier that day and told every one "SURPRISE! We got married, this is actually our reception!" It was fantastic, and so us! That's whats most important. The two (three) of you. Eff em if they can't be happy for you. You looked beautiful.

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  96. I think your wedding looks wonderfully perfect and suits you really well! Congrats on everything. I'm glad you're not letting peoples opinions on what you should of done impact you too much. They're not the ones that are going to be looking at pictures and remembering that day for years to come anyway so I'm not sure why anyone but you and your husband should care. But what can you do?

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  97. I love that you do things in a way that makes sense! I mean, people spend thousands of dollars on weddings and end up in debt and you did it in a beautifully simple yet totally practical way. Hell yeah. Congrats! I wish you and your family all the best :)

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  98. I'm LOVING the fact that you took a moment to explain your heart in relation to your wedding in this post. I love how unashamed you are of your believes and the way you did things for your amazing and beautiful wedding. LOVE this, Kaelah, and SO HAPPY for you! xoxo

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  99. WONDERFUL! PERFECT! Who could say anything bad about your lovely wedding? My sister is getting married on Saturday. The girls are all in vintage and my sister is in a casual bust stunning white dress and we are ALL wearing different colored cardigans from Target, even the bride! You do not have to justify a thing. You have a lovely family, a lovely blog and a totally amazing wedding!

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  100. Hello! I am engaged and if my wedding turns out half as beautiful as yours, I will be thrilled! I appreciate the amount of effort you took into creating a 'casual' wedding. I can't imagine anyone wouldn't absolutely adore you and your special day! Thanks for sharing with your readers! Congrats!

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  101. That's one of the most beautiful things I've ever read. Congratulations and I am so happy that everything turned out as you wanted! You deserve it!!

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  102. (PS, love the pies! and the chalkboard )

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  103. Kaelah, your wedding looks like it was just as beautiful as I'd imagine it to be, knowing how you are. I love love LOVE that you put in a little mention about gay marriage. Hell yes!

    People get way too weird and judgmental about weddings. I mean, come on. How could anyone think yours is less than perfect? It's YOURS and that's all that matters. You know that, of course... just saying. I love your attitude and style, and clearly I'm in good company or you wouldn't have such a massive (and well-deserved) following.

    Congratulations!!

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  104. And this is why I love you.

    Robbie wore a white Tshirt under his button down (which he didn't tuck in) on our wedding day and we've gotten some rude Internet comments about it. I'm not quite sure why people who don't know him personally would care what he wore, but apparently they did. It's amazing how some people would rather you pretend to be someone else than be yourself.

    We also gave a shout out to gay marriage in our wedding vows, which I'm sure prompted a few people to leave early as well.

    In the end, making your wedding about who you really are rather than what others think you are supposed to be is a sure sign of confidence and comfort in the love between two partners.

    Your wedding was beautiful, and so are you.

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  105. I know I'm a little late here... But I'm always surprised to here people comment on events that have nothing to do with them. That said, I think your wedding was beautiful! The photos here are so genuine and I think they represent you clearly. Do I know you personally, not really. But I feel like I do from your blog and your wedding looks distinctly Kaelah and Mike. I love reading about your family, the addition of Toby has been so wonderful! I'm also in awe of anyone who is true to themselves, even if your family did bolt. To me, you're a role model, a truly beautiful role model!

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  106. I know I'm a little late here... But I'm always surprised to here people comment on events that have nothing to do with them. That said, I think your wedding was beautiful! The photos here are so genuine and I think they represent you clearly. Do I know you personally, not really. But I feel like I do from your blog and your wedding looks distinctly Kaelah and Mike. I love reading about your family, the addition of Toby has been so wonderful! I'm also in awe of anyone who is true to themselves, even if your family did bolt. To me, you're a role model, a truly beautiful role model!

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  107. I think your wedding turned out beautifully and it definitely seems perfectly suited to you two! I definitely think you should do things just as you'd like on your wedding day and I'm sure when my day comes I'll choose certain things that go against tradition even though parts of my family won't like it. But anyway, I love the whole feel of your wedding and I think you looked beautiful! I think it's great that you can reuse things from your wedding like your shoes and cardigan.

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  108. You look so amazing... I saw the preview on Arrow & Apple and then, days later, wandered over to your blog from Moorea Seal without realizing the connection. :) Congratulations!

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  109. Just seeing the pictures, it looks like it was style by a pro. Your ideas, and the attention to personal detail really drive home the feel, the look and the memories you wanted to create. I love that you had the bit about gay marriage in there, I think it's important and love that you made the wedding totally you!

    My husband and I worked together to make our ceremony too because nothing we found really felt like us. Through the magic of google, and a friend marrying us we had the personal touch we wanted.

    Everything about your day is perfect and a lot like what I wanted in my day. In the end what was most important to me was marrying my husband. Like you said I could have done it in a paper bag and still had just as much fun and been just as happy. We enjoyed every second and each time I see pictures, or look at items in our home from the special day, I smile.

    You did a great job and I'm so excited for you both, and Toby. oxoxo Nothing but love, happiness and well wishes girl! ox

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  110. This was such a beautiful post! I love the part about how your commitment to your partner doesn't just start on your wedding day. Your wedding should be something that is beautiful and special to you and not just a cookie cutter of what people expect!

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  111. Thank you for what you said. We just got married almost 2 weeks ago and it was similarly diy heavy and casual. It was an awesome party where we happened to get married. But since then, I've had moments (probably induced by OD-ing on wedding inspiration before hand) where I'm a little sad that we didn't have the big fancy-ish event that would really say "WE"RE MARRIED!". But really... we already had that commitment, we just made it public in front of friends and family in way that was comfortable and us without spending more than we were comfortable with. While I hope you don't have many people telling you you should have done something different, I just wanted to let you know that your words helped me feel better about the choices I made for my own wedding.

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  112. Congratulations! And I love what you wrote about making your wedding your own and not worrying about adhering to what people consider the traditional "essentials" of a wedding. For my wedding, I asked my bridesmaids to pick out a maroon dress of their own, and they ended up coming in dresses varying from pink to purple. I didn't care, but a couple of women told me they would have freaked out if their bridesmaids hadn't been in matching dresses. I just laughed, because I couldn't understand why a minor detail like that would cause them to freak out on such a glorious day. Your wedding, from what I can see in the pictures, was beautiful!

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  114. I've only just stumbled onto your blog and I am getting married in 3 weeks and because I saw your wedding photos I've decided to wear a cardigan! I LOVE LOVE LOVE your whole style and I am a cardigan girl and thought why the hell not! I hope my wedding looks half as beautiful as yours! Renee from Australia!

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  115. I just read this and agree 110%. I have always said I would wear flats and a cardigan on my wedding day bc that is frankly just me...i also am not one to spend a lot of money on anything, so I plan to spend no more than $100 on a dress. Some see that as unrealistic....I see it as a challenge. It is your one day to do you. You can't be cookie cutter about it.

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