Questions Answered: Round Four!

Haven't answered any questions from the FormSpring in a while so here you go! Feel free to ask me anything by clicking HERE! (It's anonymous!)

Round Four
Read Rounds One, Two, and Three if you'd like!

1.) I was wondering if you could do a break down, or even better a hair tutorial with pictures, of your well hair lol. I fancy it quite a bit and was wondering how you go about styling it.
I've posted a video on YouTube (see: HERE). Granted it's a year old, if not more, but it's fairly straight forward. I have extensions but you can do the very same thing with your OWN hair if you don't, simply by turning the heat down to low on both things :) If you would like a more in-depth tutorial, just let me know and I'll try to re-record one! :D Thank you, by the way!

2.) I've seen your videos on youtube on how to do your hair, and seeing as how your hair is curled on the bottom, and more wavy on the top, I was just wondering how you style it wavy like that, and also wondering if you tease it (back comb) it as well?
The honest truth with that is my extensions don't get slept in, etc, so they retain the curl quite a bit better than my real hair does, seeing as i throw it up in a pony tail or bun and sleep with it every night. This wears the curls out a bit more so the tops tends to be wavier than the bottom. A good trick to attain this is to curl both the top and bottom of your hair (provided you don't have extensions). Don't curl the top part as tightly as the bottom. Spray the bottom part with a hefty amount of hairspray (you'll notice i'm a big fan of hairspray!). Comb out the top part with your hands just slightly (not so that it becomes afro-ish). Then re-curl the bottom a little bit more and that should do the trick! :)

As for the second part of your question, sometimes I tease it a bit, and sometimes I don't. I only wash my hair 2 or 3 times a week, and then I use Dry Shampoo in-between. IF i DO tease it, i do it in layers/sections laterally. But typically my hair just looks like a big birds nest because i load on the hairspray and hope for the best :P If you'd like a more detailed tutorial (like the person above), feel free to let me know and I'd be happy to do so!

3.) If you were to, God forbid, die suddenly and you had time to listen to one last song..what would the song be and why?

Oh goodness, thats an interesting question! Hmm… I'd probably listen to Gotta Have You by The Weepies simply based on the fact that I have OH SO MANY memories associated with that song. It means a lot to me for several very different reasons and I can honestly say that I'd go with that one. :) What song would YOU listen to?

4.) How important are guys to you? This is something that has bothered me my whole life. Watching girls who HAVE to have a man in their life to be happy. My friends date jerks just to say they have a boyfriend, like that title is more important than the actual person. It seems like boys are consistent in your life. Do you feel a need to have them? This is a judgment free question, I just want to know that someone my age can be in a relationship and not just have a "boyfriend" for the sake of having a "boyfriend", ya know? Also explain what having a boyfriend means to you.
Brilliant Question! And one that i will answer with ABSOLUTE HONESTY. I always grew up being very very independent, thanks to my mother. It was strictly she and I so she taught me how to be a very stable, successful, independent woman. I didn't really start having "boyfriends" until I was 15. I dated a few guys but nothing was ever serious really, with the exception of Jamie when I was 16/17. Most lasted roughly 3 months (because I have always had a SERIOUS relationship complex). I never felt like I NEEDED a boyfriend at that point in my life, but they were always somewhat present. I moved off to Franklin for college and I dated randomly, though nothing serious really, until Adam. Adam came around and it was 3 years basically, but while we were broken up I was pretty devastated for a while (granted it was ultimately my own doing, but it still sucked). I started to learn what it was like to be single again and I was LOOVVVVINGGG IT. I could date randomly, but never "exclusively" really. Adam was always in and out of my life during those 11 months. I never felt anything significant for anyone but towards the end of it I started feeling more and more dependent on having a boy in my life. Maybe it was boredom, maybe it was a little bit of heartache that carried over, Who knows. But for a month or two I found myself telling my best friend Bryan "I need a boyfriend." "I need a boyfriend, help me find a boyfriend. I need a boy." How awful! Then i'd be casually "talk" to a few guys and even though several of them wanted an actual full-fledged relationship to evolve from it, I never really did. I enjoyed being a single girl, and maybe I just liked the attention. Granted I never talked to someone I wasn't genuinely interested in, but at that point in my life, I couldn't see myself with that person long-term. And I don't get involved in a real relationship unless I see something lasting. Thats just my style. No sense in getting all emotionally attached to someone just to break up down the road. Right now my education, my career and MY future is the most important thing to me. Regardless of who is with me on that journey, I know thats something I NEED TO DO FOR MYSELF, you know? Then Adam came back around and I realized that I agreed to continue that relationship, if you could call it on, simply based on the fact that I THOUGHT I needed him… when I didn't. His absence and return somehow made me forget the immense amount of independence that my mother had instilled in me. This was a wake up call. I ended things with him immediately and I was incredibly satisfied with my decision to do so. I continued to talk to boys and all that jazz, but I had neither intention, nor desire, to procure a relationship with anyone at that point. I know that I'll be moving back to NYC in may, then Nashville in August, and then back to NYC soon thereafter, so starting a relationship from scratch would not be a smart decision. However, Mike came back into the picture and everything fell into place. I had NO intention of dating him again (not for lack of interest, simply because of what i've stated prior… i didn't feel like it'd be smart). but the chemistry and the connection was undeniable. Something about it felt SO incredibly right, and I couldn't walk away from that again. We have been given a second chance at this and it's not something I take lightly. They always say if it's meant to be, it will be. And now it is just that.

For me, dating can be casual, but when I call someone my "boyfriend", its because I have every intention on seeing it out to it's finish… whatever that may be. But in my mind, a boyfriend is someone I can see myself being with for a very long time. I talk and date guys to get a feel for what they are like, what their priorities are, and where they see themselves in the future. A boyfriend is so much more. I can honestly say that I've woken up to my misty haze of my co-dependency and i'm happy with the direction things are going in now. Wow, sorry that was SO drawn out, but it really do strike a chord with me because I always thought I was too strong to ever feel like i NEEDED a boy… but i've definitely fallen victim to that. Luckily I have since woken up. :) hope that makes sense!

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  1. you are so cute and interesting to me!
    i've been reading a bit recently, but this is my first comment.
    you're such an individual; very inspiring.

  2. aw thanks lydia! so glad you decided to comment! thanks for reading! <3

  3. i love you and your hair and your tattoos kaelah! i'd love to see a more in depth tutorial (:

  4. thanks love! ill try my best to get something up and going this week! ill make mike help me! :D


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