// How To Make A Pregnant Lady's Day


I don't care who you are or how comfortable you are in your own skin... sometimes pregnancy is hard. Not only is it physically demanding, but it also really taxing on your mental state. Nothing fits, you're hot all the time, you feel like you're waddling everywhere you walk, etc. Not to mention the occasional not-trying-to-be-rude-but-still-totally-is comments from strangers about being "Ready to pop!" when you've got 2 full months left... Ahem. Pregnancy is draining physically, mentally and emotionally.

But sometimes a perfect stranger can be what turns your whole day around, just by saying the right thing. For instance, last weekend Mike and I were in Target and I was getting ready to go into the fitting room with (what do you think?) some maxi dresses. I was waiting for the attendant to hand me a number and a girl next to me exclaimed "You are just the cutest pregnant gal I've ever seen!" Then 5 minutes later I waddled out wearing a sunset-colored dress and asked Mike if I looked ridiculous when a woman ran over from about 25 feet away and said "Honey, you look absolutely fabulous!" - I know they're silly comments to get worked up about, but I really needed those kind words that day. I felt like I was sweating from every part of my body (TMI, sorry!), I was overly emotional, and my back was starting to hurt. Hearing 2 random strangers share such sweet words made all the difference. My mood improved, I felt more confident throughout the day, and I just enjoyed being pregnant... with my own zip code and all!

Don't get me wrong, I love the kind comments I get when I share outfits on here and Instagram, etc (Seriously, y'all make my day!), but hearing something so nice from someone you've never crossed paths with can totally put some extra pep in your step. Sure, it might wear off a bit when your feet start hurting again, but it makes a huge difference in the moment. So next time you see a pregnant lady and you want to make her day, tell her she looks adorable/great/fabulous! (Maybe don't say "glowing" since we tend to associate that with "sweaty"... and maybe don't comment on the size of her bump, whether big or small!) But just offer a genuine compliment! Because it feels really really awesome to be on the receiving end of them! xo

PS; I know pregnant gals aren't special snowflakes or anything haha! I do think most of us struggle with a sense of "self" in the final weeks though. But a random, genuine compliment can make anyone's day! Try making someone smile today!

23 comments:

  1. Aw, I love these comments too! <3 You are adorable, for the record, though I know how much better it is to hear that in person. :)

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  2. I think it makes a huge difference when a stranger compliments you, you don't feel like they have to say it because of their emotional attachment. I think you look absolutely gorgeous and I hope I look as awesome as you when I'm preggers :)

    Laura
    Memichaelandme.blogspot.co.ui

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  3. "sweating from every part of my body" - oh girl. Oh we need to start a sweaty support group because I AM RIGHT THERE WITH YOU. And it's impossible to explain, because it's like... I'm pretty sure those sweat glands didn't EXIST before I got pregnant. And then suddenly BAM here they are just takin' over. I pretty much lock myself in my house all day when I'm not working so I can stay inside air conditioning. Or I'll try to think of the coldest restaurant I know when I want to go out to eat somewhere. I'm kind of pathetic, haha.

    You carry so high! It is very adorable, and that woman was 100% correct on the fabulousness.

    Here's to the homestretch! SO CLOSE AND YET SO FAR

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    1. "sweaty support group" = YES! ha!

      and i feel like it looks high in this photo (probably due to the angle), but otherwise i've felt like i've carried so low this entire time! no rib kicks or anything as he's nestled wayyyy low. almost all kicks and punches are around my belly button! then again what do i know? i've never done this before so i'm totally clueless haha! xo

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  4. Aw how lovely, it's always nice to get a compliment from a stranger :)

    Jess xo

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  5. Awh what a nice story. I've always thought it was kinda rude when people think its quite acceptable to say to pregnant ladies 'you're huge', why is that acceptable because someone's pregnant?

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    1. exactly! it's so insulting and misguided. i find that a lot of men say it and i can't help but think maybe they're just ignorant to how it all works, but i wish they'd get a clue! haha!

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  6. I always get the "but your bump is so small!" comment. It's getting kind of annoying. I rarely get nice comments. Lol. Mind you I don't have much time to go out anymore with a little one running around. I totally understand your comments about sweat, can it stop already? I'm at 36 weeks right now, can't wait to meet my new LO (and not be pregnant).

    Love, x
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    1. While I totally think no pregnant woman really wants to be larger than she has to, I can't help but feel it must be all kinds of backwards and hurtful to hear that "your bump is so small!" - and this is why: your body has worked SO HARD for the past however-many months to create that human being inside of you. stating that it's too small/tiny or even too big/huge/"gosh are you sure it's not twins?" is like a slap in the face to mother nature and you, ya know? gah, it really grinds my gears!

      regardless of size, the size of your belly is perfect! as is mine! because they're doing exactly what they are made to be doing, and that's pretty amazing! you're so close to the end, too! sending lots of well wishes your way for a safe and speedy labor! congratulations ;D

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  7. Have you read this post? http://www.readingmytealeaves.com/2014/05/baby-proof-shit-people-say-to-pregnant-women.html

    I haven't ever been pregnant, but I can only imagine how frustrating and (like you said) emotionally, physically, and mentally exhausting it can be. Most of the rude comments, I'm sure, are said out of ignorance, but just remember that you're awesome and beautiful and strong. :)

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    1. I hadn't read that exact post, but I've seen oh so many in the blog world over the years! I knew it was rampant, but man it becomes so much more "real" when you experience it! I've even had men make very VERY inappropriate and vulgar comments to me re: my pregnancy. Sometimes I wonder where people's brains are! haha

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  8. Such a sweet story!
    I think you can make anyone's day with some kind words...
    and for the record, you ARE adorable! ♥

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  9. That's so lovely! I'm 23 weeks pregnant and totally relate to the hot and sweaty feeling, not looking forward to starting my last trimester in July and August! This has reminded me to share more complements instead of just thinking them :-) and yes you are the cutest pregnant girl, been copying your maxi / denim skirt look already!

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  10. I've never been pregnant myself, so I don't have personal experience of pregnancy reactions, but it seems so rude to me to comment on the size of someone's bump. I don't get it! You wouldn't comment on the size of any other body so why do people do it with a bump?

    Anyway, as I always seem to be saying lately, you are looking absolutely GORGEOUS! I hope I look as lovely when I'm pregnant!

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  11. This a thousand times!!! I'm 18 weeks and I'm sick to death of being asked if I'm "showing yet", being compared to the other pregnant lady I work with and having my belly grabbed by people I barely know. Pregnancy is emotionally exhausting, and so many people have no idea how uncool it is to start passing comments on your size. I bet it made your day when those kind strangers said those things to you, it would certainly make mine!

    For the record, I think you've looked lovely in all your pregnancy posts :)

    Ann xx
    Prattle and Froth

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  12. I've had a lot of pregnant friends tell me that people say such negative or unkind things to them (like "wow...you look like you could pop any minute). So whenever I interact with a pregnant woman, I try to compliment her to take her feel special.

    -Jackie
    http://ournashvillelife.com

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  13. Aww, bless them! I agree, compliments from a stranger rock. I love it when random people tell me I look nice, except it makes me want to keep them, hahaha. You DO look chuffing amazing though, that shirt tied above your bump is darling.

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  14. I legitimately teared up reading this, it was just so sweet!
    Also you should know I just took major advantage of an online target sale on their maxi's because you made me fall in love with maxi dresses! Thanks for opening my eyes to this comfy world!
    -Meagan
    fictionincarnate.weebly.com

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  15. that is one adorable outfit for you mama!

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  16. I totally agree! I was told by one of my doctors, when I was pregnant, that I "must be on a see-food diet." Obviously, I requested to not see him again.

    But for real-- you ARE seriously one of the cutest pregnant people ever! I feel for ya during the summer months. I only had to go to July 7th, but it's rough. Good luck!



    Www.myunwastedlife.blogspot.com

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  17. I think Bubba has had a spurt so my stretchies now look like canyons! I stood in front of the mirror the other day and nearly burst into tears. I felt like a whale, when I put my pink t-shirt on I looked like a blamonche and this week even putting my socks on is a full challenge - to the point that unless I need to get my trainers on I've been wearing flip flops. I've been overheating and feel like I should change my name to Betty to rhyme with sweaty lol. 4 weeks tomorrow and Bubba is due. I'm a bit fed up of sitting here and asking "my head is hurting. Is this a normal headache or should I be calling the Midwife?" Or I feel out of sorts is this normal or should I call?"

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  18. Aw, yay for random compliments. I think they make anyones day, pregnant and non pregnant. And you are quite adorable my friend <3

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