tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post3370584732694942583..comments2024-03-07T07:04:39.054-06:00Comments on This Charming Life by Kaelah Bee: Honest To Blog: Change Of Directionkaelah beauregardehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02296368974798527373noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-59395195787651865462015-01-15T11:17:07.672-06:002015-01-15T11:17:07.672-06:00I am turning 37 this year and I still haven't ...I am turning 37 this year and I still haven't got a clue of what I want in life sometimes lol. I am a single mom with a 5 yo daughter :) I was married before. Certain events that happened in the past threw me off track (of life). I am still trying to figure my life out. At 37 lol. <br />I change my mind a lot too :)<br />You are still young. Your plans are yours. Keep and change as much as you desire :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-34964627770691343502012-10-28T13:48:52.492-05:002012-10-28T13:48:52.492-05:00I feel you! Don't worry, you're definitel...I feel you! Don't worry, you're definitely not alone. <br /><br />I've been rethinking my dream to open a brick and mortar store, too. I just don't know if I want that kind of business. I want to work for myself, and I want my business to have something to do with sex/intimacy-positivity, but lately I've been considering life coaching or dating coaching. It's scary to think about new things you might want to do that aren't on the typical career path!<br /><br />Come December, I'll have a BA in Economics, and no interest in working at a bank, going to grad school, or getting into finance. Oops!Sarah @ Marvelous-Darlinghttp://www.marvelous-darling.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-60646581335899184472012-10-24T03:31:29.545-05:002012-10-24T03:31:29.545-05:00i definitely understand what you're feeling, m...i definitely understand what you're feeling, my wants change so much, whether it be from my style preferences to where i want to settle down or what i want to do for a career. i drive my boyfriend mad sometimes, and the bad thing about my brain is that i keep everything inside and decide to make changes on my own, but don't consult anyone else. which is a veerryy bad thing. :plindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621427139700138248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-30973034477729496472012-10-23T01:58:20.741-05:002012-10-23T01:58:20.741-05:00Oh Kaelah, I love this post and can relate to abso...Oh Kaelah, I love this post and can relate to absolutely EVERYTHING you said! I think you and I have such a lot in common. Honestly, often the things you blog about could have come straight out of my own head! I too am fickle and future orientated. I also overthink absolutely everything and get the 10 month itch every single time we move! I don't really have any answers as I'm pretty much in the exact same boat as you (though without a kidlet to consider) but I comfort myself with the knowlege that this is what our 20s are for. Figuring out what we want and how to get there, making plans, changing our minds... I'm pretty sure at this stage in our lives all that is very normal! One way or another we'll figure it all out and as long as we keep dreaming big and working hard, we'll create beautiful lives for ourselves and our little families. Of that I am sure :)<br /><br />Katie xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-66610982760726938122012-10-22T15:56:00.899-05:002012-10-22T15:56:00.899-05:00Hahahaha you sound exactly like me! I change my m...Hahahaha you sound exactly like me! I change my mind constantly and I can honestly say thats a good thing!! I mean good on those who decide and stick to something but the world needs people who change their minds and I loved reading your honesty about it!!<br /><br />Love your style and your blog ~ Donna xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-16123257669455702902012-10-22T13:12:54.746-05:002012-10-22T13:12:54.746-05:00omg! I totally agree- I'll be 26 in a month an...omg! I totally agree- I'll be 26 in a month and I feel like I'm having a "quarter-life-crisis" and this is the first time I have ever been without a plan. Its driving me crazy, I'm not a "go with the flow" kinda gal. But my friends try to keep me on course with not driving myself crazy by over analyzing. I think sometimes we all need a moment to take the scenic route as aptly you called it. I've been in the Interior Design industry for almost 8 years now and I'm not even sure its what I want anymore. <br /><br />Thanks for writing this- all of it made complete sense to me and definitely spoke to me :) <br /><br />Congrats on the husband (omg srsly!) and on being a wife.<br />It will all come together for you and your family.<br /><br /><3 xxx<br />AshleyRaeAshleyRaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00661010961053912306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-83589578255389145292012-10-22T13:04:16.695-05:002012-10-22T13:04:16.695-05:00I completely understand what you're going thro...I completely understand what you're going through. My story is a little different but the general underlying issue is the same. I've moved every year since 2003, when I graduated from high school. I got married in 2008 but he's been a great partner and crime and always very supportive of my fickle flights of fancy. I found out I was pregnant last May and whoa, now everything is changing in the sense that things are going to start being the same! Stability was never a part of my plan but now I have to put her first- whoa. We moved to Tennessee last July and I haven't been able to put any of my thoughts together. I have 4 years to move us back to CA or get ready to stay in TN for a very, very long time. I don't even know what I want anymore but there go the plans, ya know? (BTW- thank you for the moving tips- I had emailed you at some point). Anyways, I feel like our personality types have a hard time not planning out every moment but I think setting some basic goals and then just seeing what happens are all we can really do at this point, right? Focus on what's right in front of you- the moment you're in- and not where you're going next. As a perfectionist overachiever I feel like I'm not doing everything to control my fate but in the end I end up having very little control anyways. Let me know if you figure it out & congratulations on your marriage- I LOVE being married to my husband- it's such a freaking joy and your man sounds like he'll be supportive and trusts you no matter what you choose. That is already a huge step in life. <3 I look forward to reading more! It's so funny how much us creative types have in common- I read posts like this very often from crafty, lovely ladies' blogs all of the time! We're not alone! XOAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16974815797140347355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-21525680925095589462012-10-22T04:54:16.253-05:002012-10-22T04:54:16.253-05:00To experiment and creation! :)
sounds like awesom...To experiment and creation! :)<br /><br />sounds like awesome goals and like you are pushing forward. Your dream so big you cant see it yet! <br /><br /><br />congrats on being a wife! <br />BarniclesBarnicleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07630980569990135948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-38360190569561654132012-10-22T00:06:25.984-05:002012-10-22T00:06:25.984-05:00oh and good luck with all your goals:)oh and good luck with all your goals:)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341035267469311267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-56642530270194080522012-10-22T00:06:15.629-05:002012-10-22T00:06:15.629-05:00I really liked this post and the "honest to.....I really liked this post and the "honest to..." format:) thanks for sharingAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15341035267469311267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-51738043021236874492012-10-21T23:58:52.237-05:002012-10-21T23:58:52.237-05:00i can relate to this, so much! i'm very, very ...i can relate to this, so much! i'm very, very fickle. i over-think EVERYTHING. really, even the smallest, most meaningless stuff. it even got to a point that i was over-thinking so much, i was to scared to even do stuff, afraid that the outcome wouldn't be exactly like i'd imagined/planned and i'd have major freak-outs. it drives me crazy! sometimes i just want to shut my brain off, stop thinking, have some peace and quiet in there. especially because i'm just setting myself up for failure. even with 'what do i want to do for the rest of my life' plans: it never works out the way i plan things, and that used to devastate me. i always wanted to have everything planned out, know what i'll be doing in five years and stick to my plan, but i guess life doesn't work like that. so i decided to just let things go. see what happens. i have things planned out for the next year or two, and who knows what will happen after that? i still have my bad days, but the most important thing is live right now. i can imagine having a family to support puts extra pressure on it, but don't worry to much -- it definitely looks like you guys are doing great! try to enjoy it as it comes, and everything will fall in its place!<br />xo, cheyenne Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-40446260918077391552012-10-21T17:01:00.997-05:002012-10-21T17:01:00.997-05:00Things will fall into place and I'm sure you g...Things will fall into place and I'm sure you guys will be able to sort things out and make everything work. I can only hope all your dreams come true darling. Big hug and kiss. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-23086617053499257782012-10-21T14:03:38.545-05:002012-10-21T14:03:38.545-05:00I think we are in the same exact boat, well maybe ...I think we are in the same exact boat, well maybe a bit different. haha!<br />I find myself worrying about how I will get to the next level with other things that I want do do, and all require some kind of education. I also find myself worrying about my family. The think my want to do creative work is a waste of time if it isn't working for some institution. *womp womppp*<br /><br />But people forget that OUR dreams are not THEIR dreams. "Do what thou wilt is the whole of the law", as long as you are not hurting others. <br /><br />It's not easy knowing that you may have to step back to go forward, but at the same time, we are young and life is waiting for us to dive in and make these journeys. So Dive. Life is an something we are meant to experience, so grab your goals, grab your little family, and reach for the stars, because life is doing what you want and love to do.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05330680700330303024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-20824587662537602562012-10-21T14:03:25.690-05:002012-10-21T14:03:25.690-05:00I think we are in the same exact boat, well maybe ...I think we are in the same exact boat, well maybe a bit different. haha!<br />I find myself worrying about how I will get to the next level with other things that I want do do, and all require some kind of education. I also find myself worrying about my family. The think my want to do creative work is a waste of time if it isn't working for some institution. *womp womppp*<br /><br />But people forget that OUR dreams are not THEIR dreams. "Do what thou wilt is the whole of the law", as long as you are not hurting others. <br /><br />It's not easy knowing that you may have to step back to go forward, but at the same time, we are young and life is waiting for us to dive in and make these journeys. So Dive. Life is an something we are meant to experience, so grab your goals, grab your little family, and reach for the stars, because life is doing what you want and love to do.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05330680700330303024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-19505400247149398442012-10-21T14:01:28.274-05:002012-10-21T14:01:28.274-05:00I bet it feels great to get all that out! I think ...I bet it feels great to get all that out! I think it's so normal to suddenly realise you have some different goals in life, or that it has taken a different path. I sometimes feel like I change my mind about certain things constantly. It annoys me and I think "Why can't I be solid in my opinions or thoughts about some things in my life?" but then I have to remind myself we are all human, and there are so many ever changing variables. :) :) Beth Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12167650201064348739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-73916714161726177162012-10-21T12:27:05.202-05:002012-10-21T12:27:05.202-05:00"Sometimes I'm scared that I'm gettin..."Sometimes I'm scared that I'm getting too old to change my mind on what I want to do"<br /><br />Story of my life! I often find myself getting the urge to switch things up, but I've never looked into it in too much detail. Be it my hair, my living space, or even the actual abode I'm in, I'm always desperate to start the next goal. I think it's simple a side-effect of having a creative mind :)<br /><br />I also really agree with The Quiet Owl - It's important to change, and evolve. It would be more worrying if the world spun on around you and you went on, unaffected or modified!<br /><br />Alli xxBuboe Pestishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13938556175069340454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-46477227313596698532012-10-21T11:22:09.479-05:002012-10-21T11:22:09.479-05:00I think sometimes we feel like we have to set a pa...I think sometimes we feel like we have to set a path and stay on it. Things change, and that's ok. If we didn't change, that would mean we're not growing as a person. Don't worry, you're perfectly normal.The Quiet Owlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702953412083622090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-77096397706237421692012-10-21T11:01:50.584-05:002012-10-21T11:01:50.584-05:00I think we're in that 21-25 freak out stage, I...I think we're in that 21-25 freak out stage, I do it too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-52881116857744901862012-10-21T10:11:59.231-05:002012-10-21T10:11:59.231-05:00I can definitely relate to this. I'll be 25 ne...I can definitely relate to this. I'll be 25 next month, and after finally getting my BA and moving to the Netherlands to be with my boyfriend and to teach English, I feel like all I want to do is work out of the house and try to make a go at blogging and crafting. Maybe finish my novel? Maybe start a cafe? Maybe this, maybe that, etc. Then I think about wanting kids in the next few years and I panic and go do something else, haha. Basically, I think it's normal (?) or at least, I can definitely tell you that you're NOT the only one. I've been following your blog for a little while now, and can tell that you go out and get what you want, and you're good at a lot. Things always fall into place for people like that :)Just remember to breathe ;) Juliehttp://www.crochezjulie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-66370808886579640972012-10-21T00:38:41.857-05:002012-10-21T00:38:41.857-05:00I put a time stamp on every little thing and then ...I put a time stamp on every little thing and then I stress over it! I try to remind myself to just live and enjoy what is happening now, rather than thinking about..."I am 31 and don't have a child yet. Should I?" or "My business isn't growing fast enough." I think it's great to have goals and work hard to achieve them, but some things will just happen when they are meant to happen :).ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14347031157703265500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-30083031554471668892012-10-20T21:59:04.462-05:002012-10-20T21:59:04.462-05:00This post basically sounded like a typical day in ...This post basically sounded like a typical day in my brain haha so good to hear that Wes and I aren't the only ones who have these talks/fears/fickleness :)Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05253030147584330695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-71818254125898634232012-10-20T21:58:38.902-05:002012-10-20T21:58:38.902-05:00This post basically sounded like a typical day in ...This post basically sounded like a typical day in my brain haha so good to hear that Wes and I aren't the only ones who have these talks/fears/fickleness :)Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05253030147584330695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-69649740050928141082012-10-20T20:36:35.986-05:002012-10-20T20:36:35.986-05:00I am completely the same way. And honestly, it jus...I am completely the same way. And honestly, it just sounds like you're going through a quarter-life crisis, which EVERYONE does and its COMPLETELY normal. Just promise to not stop writing.. like ever. You inspire too many people.<br /><br />I'm so happy for you and your HUSBAND (!) and your little family and I hope you don't stress yourself too much. You deserve all the happiness in the world. :)<br /><br />xo AshleyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07594361147835316155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-81586326169969716562012-10-20T19:04:32.180-05:002012-10-20T19:04:32.180-05:00My life goals change on an hourly basis. I think t...My life goals change on an hourly basis. I think that happens with everyone, and if it doesn't, well... isn't that kind of boring?<br /><br />Oh, and it's been about a year and a half and I still call my husband my boyfriend. It's gonna take a while.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-71372475670823592082012-10-20T18:04:32.742-05:002012-10-20T18:04:32.742-05:00Hahaha, I laughed out loud at the fingers and pies...Hahaha, I laughed out loud at the fingers and pies part too.Nikki Florenohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929984198907064373noreply@blogger.com