tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post1607877314388297898..comments2024-03-07T07:04:39.054-06:00Comments on This Charming Life by Kaelah Bee: Honest To Blog -- Proud vs. Boastfulkaelah beauregardehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02296368974798527373noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-80919986832628150882012-02-28T22:49:35.866-06:002012-02-28T22:49:35.866-06:00I'm going through my reader and I just caught ...I'm going through my reader and I just caught this along with this discussion here http://www.designsponge.com/2012/02/bernhard-willhelm-nail-polish.html<br /><br />I know the subtopics are different, but the topic is the same. Maybe because I'm biased as a blogger, I don't think it's braggy. I can look back at my older posts and see how I made a thrifted item sound like i was shopping at Cartier (seriously, i'm so ashamed) but when I read your blog posts on your closet, I may not always agree with the style (i'm still scared of anything above 2"!) but it's more of an admiration. You're one of the hardest working women i know, and it's silly for me to question what you do with your money and even more so what you decide to share. As for people that come off and see it as braggy, maybe i'm on my soapbox, but I think it's an underlining conviction for them. what is it about a pair of shoes (or with grace's situation, a nail polish) that brings out the judgement in people? Well, I'm not sure how my comment would add to the discussion but i hope it did!Diana https://www.blogger.com/profile/17224404867214558821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-64911497808702655912012-02-27T10:56:44.677-06:002012-02-27T10:56:44.677-06:00I never thought of you of a boastful blogger! The...I never thought of you of a boastful blogger! The post with the Jeffrey Campbell shoes was one of excitement and you are entitled to feeling that way for you earned them by having an exceptional blog that you worked hard on. Nothing at all wrong with that. Tis true that there is a fine line between blogging and showing off, sometimes I straddle that line and its difficult to tell the difference. However for some people that is their only way of gaining followers and you can't blame em. With so much competition out there one has to find a way in which they bring in readers. Again this isn't for everyone but for those who feel this way that is perfectly fine in my opinion. There is so much more to this whole blogging thing that people don't see in general. Anywhoo great post I look forward to more, awesome blog! Stay sweet!Amber Nofetarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04338310237708356179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-46946039632036358762012-02-21T10:52:09.354-06:002012-02-21T10:52:09.354-06:00I've certainly had that twinge of jealousy/sad...I've certainly had that twinge of jealousy/sadness from other bloggers - the ones that can wear something new everyday - the insanely skinny ones that can wear a size 2 vintage dress or own an endless amount of vintage treasures (that I certainly can not afford)- the ones that can travel to different locations everyday to take photos for their blog. I just have to keep reminding myself that I'm not them and I can't be them. I can only afford to shop at thrift stores on a $0 budget when Josh or my mom are willing to buy clothes for me. I can't work because of my illness and I can't drive.. so I can't travel every day to take photos in different locations. (I feel like such a burden on others a lot these days.) But I am still pushing forward in the blogging game because I want to become a remix expert/full hand maker. I want to start making 100% of all of my dresses and accessories. That's one of my absolute main blogging goals.. and I think that's totally the only reason I'm really sticking around in the blogosphere. I think that making something and showing it off is completely different than BUYING something JUST to show it off. But that's just my opinion.<br /><br />Not once have you ever come off as "boastful" or "bragging". I know that you work for every single thing that you own. You have like 473819043 different jobs/sources of income that you work for. You put your time and hard work into everything you do, so that's the main reason that I see it as a treat rather than bragging. ♥Lyndseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03835779259426879527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-54538364728072190222012-02-21T10:41:29.761-06:002012-02-21T10:41:29.761-06:00Haha. I liked this post.
Well as a blogger, I act...Haha. I liked this post.<br /><br />Well as a blogger, I actually deleted my Blogger account. I started it in 2010 as a way to make me feel better about a crappy situation.. but then as I started following more and more bloggers, I started feeling the pressures to be great and I started feeling like my little blog was inadequate..which is sad and I'm not so proud of that.. but it's the reality. So I deleted it because I was thinking "why is my blog making me feel so bad? why am i not good enough like these amazing bloggers? why don't people want to read my stuff?" and then i started realizing that i didn't like feeling pressured to take pictures of my life all the time just to "keep up" so yeah. i deleted it.<br />however, i really love blogging and realized that TUMBLR is a great place to blog but not feel "pressure" ... no one knows how many followers you have (not usually) and you can just post what you want without being "formal" and i like that.. and i discovered that's more for me.. :) <br /><br />-Jessica.Jessica @ Little Maple Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04010320624307703276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-80514672782226656422012-02-21T08:30:15.679-06:002012-02-21T08:30:15.679-06:00I guess I'm in the minority, but I've neve...I guess I'm in the minority, but I've never had a problem with the bloggers that wear a lot of designer stuff. I don't really pay attention to it either, though. Most of the style blogs I follow, I like because of how they put things together...I usually follow bloggers that I draw inspiration from. Even if their clothes are high end designer clothes, I can usually find similar look in my cheapy stuff :) <br /><br />I may have just never stumbled upon boastful bloggers though, and I've certainly never thought your posts come off as braggish (raise your hand if you like making up words). I will say, I stop visiting blogs as often when every other post is a sponsored giveaway. I mean...it's nice that someone's going to win $20 from Shopadoodledo, but I read blogs for content, not ads.KristiMcMurryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13374696572038512403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-72850163202994578012012-02-20T18:59:27.912-06:002012-02-20T18:59:27.912-06:00This post was really good! I dabbled in blogging f...This post was really good! I dabbled in blogging for a few months. I thought it would be fun to share my outfits/recipes/garden, but I just felt uncomfortable, and that feeling never went away. I can't really pin down WHY I felt so uneasy, but I think it had something to do with the things you wrote about. It was hard for me to share my enthusiasm about certain things without feeling like I was coming across as taking myself too seriously. One of the reasons I love your blog is that you seem so authentic and not braggy at all. I read several style/lifestyle blogs whose aesthetic appeals to me, and while I enjoy them, sometimes I feel like I need to take them with a grain of salt because they seem so contrived. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth when it's apparent that the person lives for their blog, and not the other way around. I'm like, really? If you didn't have a blog would you REALLY have baked 5 different types of ombre cupcakes and spent 5 hours decorating your living room with handmade paper flowers and taken 28 pictures of your artfully arranged dessert plates and your vintage apron just because your friend from college was coming over for lunch? Obviously I enjoy reading about that kind of stuff, but sometimes it makes my eyes roll right out of my head. I think of it as "Tweeporn." But I have to say that i never get annoyed or feel cynical reading your blog because for some reason you DON'T come across that way to me... although as a former "blogger (I had 3 followers lol)" I can understand why you're concerned about it.hellotamponhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13413646181019320071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-39275253331446862472012-02-20T18:33:30.078-06:002012-02-20T18:33:30.078-06:00So so true. I do think a lot of that goes with peo...So so true. I do think a lot of that goes with people either understanding FASHION blogging or not. It's a whole thing, and I can tell some people look at me funny when I tell them that I "post outfits that Ive worn" on my blog. I totally get how they see that as weird and show-off-y because they don't understand that it's all about being inspired and everything else that comes with style blogging.<br />I tend to not tell people about my blog for this reason, and just hope that people who come across it via others' blogs or however else, will just understand what it is already.<br /><br />Great post!<br />xo<br />http://kittysnooks.blogspot.com/Katiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16799578389173602582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-30114751852024238452012-02-20T16:22:43.105-06:002012-02-20T16:22:43.105-06:00I think it's funny people can find bloggers bo...I think it's funny people can find bloggers boastful or feel they are showing off when they have a fashion blog. It's like, come on, what do you expect to see? Bloggers wearing the same dress every day? I don't think you come across as intentionally bragging at all. I know you work hard for what you have and if people have a problem with your success and how you choose to spend your money, then boo them.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03493069027290560025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-72674887744794142602012-02-20T16:01:18.243-06:002012-02-20T16:01:18.243-06:00This is good to read.. Just today I was talking ab...This is good to read.. Just today I was talking about after reading blogs, I feel like there's all these people out there who look cute and put together all the time, and until I can be that person, there's no point in trying. Thanks for the reminder, that at some point we all run around in sweatshirts and leggings ;)Kyleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15624669481958406709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-28981208001211831902012-02-20T12:05:44.657-06:002012-02-20T12:05:44.657-06:00I don't find you boastful...even with the new ...I don't find you boastful...even with the new JC shoe post you did on Instagram. I saw it as excitement. I love seeing what your closet looks like and have been waiting for shots of the new house. I love seeing how people decorate & arrange things. Plus, I LOVE seeing all your JC shoes! =) <br /><br />I've never once thought you were bragging or doing anything but sharing your love for what you have. As a "style" blogger I think it's totally appropriate to show your closet every once in a while. At least, that's my view on it. You are very vocal about how & where you shop. You have Kaelah's closet so it's not like you are totally hording every piece of clothing you have. You constantly remix things so whoever sees you as wearing new stuff all the time isn't paying attention.<br /><br />No matter what any blogger does there is always going to be those who have something negative to say or to pick. As a whole though I think all the comments you've gotten show that your intentions are taken how you mean them and people who read you get where you are coming from. <br /><br />I definitely think you over think things but I think it would be hard for you not to. Just make sure you don't do it too much so you stop sharing who you are and what you want to share. <br /><br />Thank you for being so honest!!kittykerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04142366745200569737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-44346500524427318202012-02-20T10:34:13.707-06:002012-02-20T10:34:13.707-06:00@ Anon: I was waiting for a comment like this. You...@ Anon: I was waiting for a comment like this. You're totally entitled to it and you won't be shunned or booed in any way. Not from me at least. I do have two "issues" (for the lack of a bette word) with your arguement however: 1) your feelings are a projection. you're projecting from how YOU grew up. i very well may have grown up the same way (spoiler alert: i did, may never to that extent, but still. i come from a single parent household where my mom worked multiple jobs to support me, never receiving government assistance, etc). i've worked for absolutely everything i have, just like she, and there's no shame in that. 2) you say things like "put it in savings"... not going to lie, this actually annoys the living daylights out of me as just a human being. you cannot possibly know how much money i have in savings. you can't. you don't know what my bank account looks like. you don't know how much money i make a week/month/year from my multiple jobs. it's so easy to say a comment like that offhand but you don't really realize what you're saying. i'm VERY smart with my money because i know what it's like to not have any. does it feel nice to have new things? absolutely. can it help put a pep in my step? sure. am i trying to show off or make consumerism fashionable? never on purpose. i'm glad you shared your piece and i commend you for it (there really was no reason to be anonymous. we're all cordial here!). but i also have to "challenge" your thought patterns. i wear + rewear things over and over and over. i don't share new things every day and i don't share outfit posts everyday. there are so many things/days you don't see. you can't take my blog at face value ya know? i urge you to maybe think about the context you're reading things in. i'm not an oversharer. you will never find vivid detailed accounts of my day to day life on my blog. i share the surface stuff but never the nitty gritty. it's just not my style. as a person, it bothers me that people get so invested in what other people spend their money on or how much they save, donate, etc. i do all of those things, but don't find it necessary to write on my blog. i have a feeling many bloggers are smart with their money and generous to the less fortunate (and just as many who arent). but you don't normally read style/lifestyle blogs to find that kind of information. it's not relevant. my blog is just that: a life + style blog. people come for the outfits and the backstory. if it causes you any negative feelings, then this blog might not be for you! i say this with the utmost sincerity and not a tinge of anger in my tone, i promise. i've never viewed my life as extravagant, because it's not. but i'm also going to be proud of what i've accomplished + what i have to show for it, because i've done it on my own :) thanks for sharing xokaelah beauregardehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02296368974798527373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-90716231098217813872012-02-20T10:19:48.621-06:002012-02-20T10:19:48.621-06:00I'm a new follower of yours, I've been sub...I'm a new follower of yours, I've been subscribed via bloglovin for about three weeks and I can already tell I like your personality and style! I do NOT think you're boastful or anything... Just helpful by providing new ideas about how to mix& match clothes! And I can't WAIT to see your new place. I will be eager to see a photo tour once you're all settled in.Staci @ My Friend Stacihttp://myfriendstaci.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-45419599818636219512012-02-20T10:17:44.211-06:002012-02-20T10:17:44.211-06:00I'm probably going to be shunned for this, but...I'm probably going to be shunned for this, but I am that one person who did find it boastful. I never thought you meant it, but it did come off that way. <br /><br />Growing up, I was very very poor. Not food stamp poor, my family was "one dollar to buy groceries for the entire week to feed 6 people" poor. We didn't have electricity in our home, we didn't have food for days on end. And our clothes came from donations people would drop on our doorstep (no knock on the door. They literally just flung trash bags full of clothes on our doorstep and took off and assumed we'd find it and be instantly grateful). Don't get me wrong, we were grateful for the clothes, not the attitude. <br /><br />Since then I've obviously come a long way (I must have if I'm using a computer, right!?). But because I was raised so dirt poor I've come to appreciate the value of a dollar, and the alternative uses for a dollar. Whenever I see bloggers with new clothes "I scored these at XXXXX they were only XXX!" it honestly makes me sad more than excited. I'm no fashionista, but I have seen several blogs where girls shop at thrift stores and then do remix posts where they wear that piece several different ways (thrift store. not vintage boutique). It's a waste-not want-not attitude that I appreciate in a blogger. <br /><br />I'm not saying you are boastful, I am just saying that it is sad to see a new dress everyday when there are people who do not have even one. It's just a thought, instead of buying new furniture or a new dress or shoes (that you claim you have a bounty of) maybe put it away in some savings jar and pull it out when there is a real need for it (for yourself or for someone else. But not on frivolities).<br /><br />Or think of this as a challenge to do a remix post. :) That is, if i haven't already gotten boo-ed off the stage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-36097661441078226412012-02-20T10:11:17.297-06:002012-02-20T10:11:17.297-06:00I just LOVE your blog. You are so honest refreshi...I just LOVE your blog. You are so honest refreshing and real. I adore your OoTD shots and all your other eclectic posts.Thanks for continuing to be your awesome self!! I'll keep coming back every day and recommending you to everyone.Hopeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06993525638797926950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-26110086082771458692012-02-20T10:02:21.670-06:002012-02-20T10:02:21.670-06:00I've said this to you before and I'll say ...I've said this to you before and I'll say it again... Personally, I read your blog because I've been reading since the LJ days. I like your sense of style, I usually admire your sense of self and attitude about life (NGL, sometimes I DO indeed side-eye at things...that's life), and overall it's just interesting watching you grow and change as a person (is that creepy to hear from a stranger?). Never do you come off as deliberately braggadocios or ungrateful for the things you have and that's a quality that is particularly admirable.lizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15237413864784297959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-35920959132703511732012-02-20T07:48:57.746-06:002012-02-20T07:48:57.746-06:00I just wrote a piece very similar to this for my o...I just wrote a piece very similar to this for my own blog a few days ago! Although, you've put what I was trying to say across much more eloquently. <br /><br />I really think there is such a fine line between bragging and just being proud when it comes to blogging. I think some blogs create unrealistic expectations in the minds of their readers about what their lives are like and what their own lives should be like. However I don't think it's totally down to the blogger to think about how the present themselves: in many cases I think those reading the blog should readjust their attitudes when reading a blog; for example remembering that a blogger might not share ALL of themselves on their blogs.<br /><br />Great post! xxEmily Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10701848203833493937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-26275693537784871682012-02-20T06:15:02.080-06:002012-02-20T06:15:02.080-06:00MTE! This is so well written and honest! thank you...MTE! This is so well written and honest! thank you.Angie J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16560390754112191705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-24759905607364124802012-02-20T01:15:45.716-06:002012-02-20T01:15:45.716-06:00This post is incredible! Thank you so much for po...This post is incredible! Thank you so much for posting it. Tonight I wanted to focus on doing a blog post for my blog recapping a recent trip I went on, and I was having trouble starting it because I didn't want to come across as bragging. I decided to just blog hop for a bit to help me get inspired. This post was exactly what I needed to hear.<br /><br />There truly is a fine line between being excited about something and bragging, and (like you) I HATE being misunderstood. I often over think blogging and what I want to post (I recently stopped a weekly topic because I felt that people were taking it the wrong way.<br /><br />I have come to your blog multiple times for inspiration for many things (cocktails, cute clothes ideas, and writing style tips - I totally dig your writing "voice" btw!!) Your honesty and sincerity is very endearing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.KnittedFoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12392067388626868219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-46637755592591936662012-02-20T00:00:14.870-06:002012-02-20T00:00:14.870-06:00Hey Kaelah, I can understand all the concerns with...Hey Kaelah, I can understand all the concerns with the blog drama. My site is new (www.cosmeticsbycortney.com) but i've had other blogs before and it's hard to escape the drama. All you can do is be you and everyone just has to deal with it! :D Keep up the great blogging <3Cosmetics By Cortneyhttp://www.cosmeticsbycortney.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-36723117740344947362012-02-19T23:42:48.375-06:002012-02-19T23:42:48.375-06:00i read your blog all the time and i don't see ...i read your blog all the time and i don't see you as being braggy or boastfull your excited and you want to share with your readers. there are alot of blogs who constantly post oo look at my new designer outfit and $800 pair of shoes ect ect and then ontop of that they are getting free designer things as well lol. personally when i blog about things that i got when i do its more of the fact i want to share with people who actually enjoy the same things as i do . Most of my friends don't really have alot in common with me so having a blog where people actually care about the same things as i do and are interested in reading about it makes me really happyThe Fancy Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04572284629670913493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-10784260305246625272012-02-19T23:19:22.974-06:002012-02-19T23:19:22.974-06:00Sigh, I struggle with this as well... Being a pret...Sigh, I struggle with this as well... Being a pretty new blogger I feel the need to try and "keep up" with others (heck in real life as well). So I am constantly cringing at the things I post but in all honesty, I absolutely love designer and vintage clothing but I NEVER pay retail prices for anything. I show off finding $900 shoes for $30 and it may still sound stuck up but it's an art to show a purchase off and still sound sincere and humble, an art I definitely haven't mastered yet.<br /><br /><br />http://thecharleygirl.comThe Charley Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02253300456767211813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-48788413886774663132012-02-19T23:10:19.746-06:002012-02-19T23:10:19.746-06:00Okay so I really love this post. As I mentioned on...Okay so I really love this post. As I mentioned on twitter, I have such a hard time with this. I think it's only human to be proud of the things you love that you've acquired - whatever they may be - and to want to share the happiness those things bring you with others. But I totally understand where you're coming from. When I started my 365 Days of Marriage project I tried really hard to make sure I always mentioned that our life isn't picture perfect all of the time. Not even close! I've always feared being misunderstood, especially on that topic, becausemarriage is (of course) hard and not always rainbows and cupcakes! But I felt like people still didn't believe me sometimes, no matter how honest I tried to be.<br /><br />I've spent some time feeling jealous of bloggers with tons of followers or sponsors, or hoards of awesome shoes. ;) But then I realize that there are people who come to my blog and feel jealous of the things I have based on how I share small pieces of my life. It made me realize, as bloggers we are all in this together. Not rivals or competitors. I am a regular ol' person and I'd like to think we're all equal with our own share of real life problems and personal trials. <br /><br />So I say, share away! If someone wants to be negative - they will. They will look for something to misunderstand. So be mindful of course but post what you want to share and be proud. You deserve that!<br /><br /><br />So I say, share away. If someone wants to be negative they will find a way, no matter what you sensor or how you word something.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03820735875690397265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-30682040029690774502012-02-19T22:44:56.044-06:002012-02-19T22:44:56.044-06:00So far I haven't seen others show off [yet] bu...So far I haven't seen others show off [yet] but I wonder if I'm doing the same thing. Which makes blogging difficult sometimes. <br /><br />As for the /how do you afford all of that/ bit... I really don't understand why people are so quick to question/judge without considering that maybe you're a good shopper and you've had those items for awhile. Compulsive? Maybe because hey, sales/discounts are AWESOME. Cheap means you get to buy in bulk! haha<br /><br /> I also hate being misunderstood but a friend told me that I don't NEED to explain myself. It's challenging but true. <br /><br />The c/o does bother me a little if the blog is mostly on giveaways/sponsors/guest posts.. and there's not much content from the actual blog owner. I followed blogs to get to know someone else and see into their world.. not have constant sponsor posts shoved down my throat.Battyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09537656358398584367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-83839706694389858422012-02-19T21:55:46.737-06:002012-02-19T21:55:46.737-06:00Thank you for this post. These sort of thoughts pa...Thank you for this post. These sort of thoughts pass through my mind as well. When I read your posts I don't ever see you as being boastful, but now, in retrospect, I hope I don't come off that way either. I work very hard full time and feel like I deserve the vacations I give myself, but I can see how that could get misconstrued. I suppose it's all in the presentation. And you do a fine job at that :)<br />Roxygrrfeistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08512784580086284118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8840382153011642380.post-89770677238643152732012-02-19T21:27:50.783-06:002012-02-19T21:27:50.783-06:00I only started regularly reading your blog for the...I only started regularly reading your blog for the past couple of months, and I follow you on Instagram, and never once have I felt you were "boasting" about your insane shoe/clothing collection. I actually remember that Instagram post with your shoes and didn't think you were bragging at all. <br /><br />I follow a lot of style blogs, and personally, I find you to be one of the more down-to-earth style/lifestyle bloggers out there. You're outfits aren't all "c/o" and like another commenter said, you say more with your words and I think the majority of us notice that.<br /><br />Lastly, what I like about you is that you *recognize* what you might see as faults in yourself and acknowledge them. That right there shows how much you care. :)tanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11553555564227004273noreply@blogger.com