// Learning To “Adult”: What Are The Big Lessons?


There comes a point in our lives where we think that we've got to get on the road to adulthood. But as we start to delve deep into the world of being an adult, there are a few pointers that come out. Firstly, nobody knows how to do it properly! Being an adult is quite strange. But when we see that there are certain aspects of adulthood that we could truly do with some sort of instruction manual to guide us, it can be useful to get a little helping hand on occasion. Some of these things are incredibly straight-forward but let's provide you with a one-stop-shop in learning to "adult."


Negotiating The Big Purchases
The big purchases in life can seem a long way off. You might be thinking about getting on the property ladder or you might be thinking about buying a car. These big purchases can seem very easy to acquire. But as there are so many people getting into all sorts of debt through credit cards and taking out loans they cannot repay this is one of the biggest life lessons that we could all benefit from early on. So many people get themselves into debt and then the time comes that you have to buy a house or a car, all of a sudden you're not able to get what you want because you've got a poor credit rating. 


Buying a house is one of those stressful processes but it is something that we should all think about preparing for because owning our own property can save us money over time, although it may not feel like it at the outset. Taking the time to find the best mortgage rates and clearing your debt is crucial. And you don't have to look very far to find mortgage brokers like Altrua Financial and housing agencies that can give you a helping hand. But one of the biggest lessons we can all learn when thinking about those big purchases is that they won't fall into our laps. We have to make financial sacrifices and keep an eye on our credit rating like a hawk. 


When we're young, we don't think about these things because we need to live our lives. In one respect, it's common sense. If you are out for a good time you're not going to care about owning your own home but things may change, especially when you find someone you want to settle down with.


Being Healthy Isn't Just About Your Diet
Part of becoming an adult implies that we have to start running or hitting the gym all of the time and eating our greens. But being healthy is a more comprehensive approach. There are parts of our lives that we feel we have a handle on, but there are other ones where we feel we need to make tweaks. We may forever be looking for the right diet so we can lose an extra couple of pounds or we try to be happier in certain ways, but no matter how hard we work at these things, they will always seem to be out of our reach. 


Being healthy is all about lifestyle choice rather than anything else. When we think about diets, they imply something temporary. If we eat a certain way or do certain exercises we get to our ideal goal. But the real way to address the happiness of the individual behind those diets is about the lifestyle choices they make. And this is where you have to make choices that fit in with your way of life but also so make you happy in the long run. So many people think that in order to be fit they have to go to the gym six days a week. But now with so many resources showing us this isn't the case, especially in terms of protocols like Body By Science, we only need to go to the gym once or twice a week and can maintain a lot of our health. 


The other part of being healthy is about being happy with the choices you've made. Health is not just about food and exercise, but it's about your own happiness. This means that you've got to prioritize certain things that will make you feel happier or, at the very least, on an even keel. We are currently in the middle of a sleep epidemic. People believe that they have to burn the candle at both ends in order to succeed in life. But if we start to look at our health in terms of our mental well-being as well as our physical, we can put certain practices into our lives that will benefit us in the long run. It could be meditating or it could just be about getting to bed early every couple of nights or so. The important thing is to listen to your body and your mind. If you go with your gut feelings, you are very seldom wrong. 


Learn To Be The Best Version Of You As Possible
Being an adult is not necessarily about being strong or being that stereotypical version of your parents. We can suffer from the expectations our parents were under. Because they actually pass them on to us, we can feel that we've got to be mature or take things seriously. And there is a big problem with taking life too seriously. Yes, there are bills to be paid and there are things that need doing but if you can't have fun in your life and take everything with a pinch of salt on occasion this can be detrimental to you over time.


Being the best version of you as possible is not necessarily about incorporating some sense of maturity into your life. It's about taking those opportunities to learn things properly. We all make mistakes but people don't always feel inclined to own up to them. One of the great things about becoming a responsible person is learning to take responsibility for your actions whether they are right or wrong. And when we think about the cliched version of being a grown-up we can start to pick holes in what our parents did, not from a perspective where we are trying to outsmart them or pick them apart, but by taking a subjective view of what our parents did and learning from their mistakes. But also, looking at our relationships with our parents and in some ways making a break with the past and learning from what they used to be like as well as what you used to be like can help. This may mean having to confront the past, or facing up to things that you've avoided for so long. But in becoming the best version of you this is what you need to do.


Find Your Version Of "Home"
Another stereotypical approach to being a grown-up is about being a provider. We have to provide some sort of home for ourselves, especially when we have children, but in doing this we may have to go far away from everything we know. Finding your version of home is about settling somewhere that you can come back to but also makes you a better person. As grandiose as this sounds, you've got to feel comfortable somewhere. Many people find in their thirties or forties that they naturally gravitate back to where they came from. Even though they spent their twenties trying to escape it, they've learned lessons now that makes them realize that home holds a lot of lessons and precious memories for them.


When you find somewhere that feels like home it can help you to settle in mind and body. Part of being a stereotypical adult is about being confident and able to live life being the best version of you. When we are learning to become an adult we can very easily get bogged down in the general duties of being a grown-up. But learning to be at home somewhere can instill you with a lot of confidence. When you find the right place it helps you realize who you are but it also makes you understand that when you are ready to move onto the next phase of your life whether it's getting a different job or settling down and having children that you need somewhere that makes you, in a general sense, happy. As soon as you find your version of home you will feel the difference.


Being an adult is full of terrible cliches but if you are concerned that being an adult means you've got to sacrifice part of who you are or you need to “grow up” because people expect this of you, this is not the case. Learning to become an adult is about navigating those big purchases in life and understanding that nothing comes for free but it's also about realizing that adulthood is the perfect time for you to learn about yourself. Life is a precious thing and while we have to maintain certain responsibilities, this isn't all that being an adult is about.


// this contributed post was written for this charming life.


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